Welcome to the September edition of The Singles’ World.

In the last edition, I discussed the emotional and spiritual damage caused by infidelity. In earlier editions, I examined its prevalence and major causes in society today. Sadly, infidelity also affects the Church of God, which should serve as the light of the world.

My concern in this series is to expose this destructive problem. Infidelity is already destroying many Christian homes. Sadly, the wider society continues to influence the Church through globalisation and the media. Yet, Christians do not always recognise the dangers that come with these influences.

We must therefore ask ourselves:  Why should the children of Zion behave like the children of Belial?

The boundary between the Church and the world appears increasingly blurred. As a result, adultery has become a concern even within the Church. Through this series, I hope to expose this troubling reality and offer guidance.

I want singles to understand the dangers of infidelity before marriage. I also want married couples to guard their hearts and homes against adultery and its devastating consequences. Furthermore, I hope to encourage those struggling with infidelity to break free and seek appropriate help.

In this edition, I shall discuss another consequence of infidelity. I pray that the Lord will preserve you and your home from adultery, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Effects of Infidelity

1. Marital Damage

Infidelity can cause serious damage to a marriage. One of its first consequences is often constant suspicion. Once a partner breaks trust, suspicion can take its place.

Even when the unfaithful partner genuinely repents, the betrayed spouse may struggle to trust again. Rebuilding trust often requires time, patience, honesty, and consistent effort.

Some people already struggle with trust because of their upbringing. They may have grown up in families where betrayal, dishonesty, and broken promises were common. Others have experienced betrayal by people they once trusted deeply.

When such individuals later experience infidelity in marriage, rebuilding trust can become even more difficult.

In these marriages, ordinary activities may trigger suspicion. A telephone call, an interaction with someone of the opposite sex, or a journey taken alone may raise concerns. Even innocent social activities can become sources of conflict.

As a result, the home may become tense, unhealthy, and emotionally exhausting. This is one of the painful ways infidelity damages a marriage.

2. Weakening of Marital Intimacy

Infidelity can also seriously damage marital intimacy. The betrayed spouse may struggle to feel emotionally or physically close to the unfaithful partner.

Marriage requires faithfulness and exclusivity. When one partner shares that intimacy with another person, the betrayal can deeply affect the relationship.

The betrayed spouse may no longer desire physical intimacy. Feelings of hurt, anger, and distrust can make closeness difficult. The spouse may also feel uncomfortable sharing a bed with the person who caused the pain.

As a result, the couple may struggle to meet each other’s emotional and sexual needs. They may continue living under the same roof while feeling lonely, frustrated, and disconnected.

This is a painful situation. The marriage bed should represent intimacy, security, and mutual affection. However, infidelity can turn it into a reminder of betrayal and distrust.

3. Communication Breakdown

Infidelity may also destroy open communication between spouses. The betrayed partner may no longer feel safe sharing personal thoughts, plans, or concerns with the unfaithful spouse.

Conversations may become brief, forced, or infrequent. One partner may ignore telephone calls or respond coldly to text messages. The couple may also stop sharing important burdens and problems.

This breakdown can weaken the emotional connection that once encouraged honesty and openness.

Over time, misunderstanding, resentment, and anger may grow. If the couple fails to address these emotions, conflict may escalate into verbal or emotional abuse. In some cases, it may even lead to physical violence.

This is why the Bible says, “Hatred stirreth up strifes” (Proverbs 10:12). Proverbs 29:22 also declares, “An angry man stirreth up strife.”

Betrayal can produce deep anger and resentment. However, couples must not allow these emotions to lead to violence. They should seek appropriate help before the situation worsens or causes further harm.

4. Separation and Divorce

In some cases, infidelity may eventually lead to separation or divorce. Once a marriage reaches this point, the couple may face additional challenges.

These may include disputes over property, finances, child custody, and family responsibilities. In some cases, the involvement of extended family members may further complicate matters.

A relationship that began with joy and solemn promises at the wedding altar may end in bitterness and emotional pain.

The consequences affect more than the couple. Their children may also suffer, and the wider family may experience distress. The Christian community may feel the impact as well.

When a Christian marriage breaks down because of infidelity, it can damage the couple’s testimony. It may also give unbelievers an opportunity to question or ridicule the Christian faith.

This is why prevention is better than trying to repair the damage caused by infidelity. Couples must guard their hearts, maintain healthy boundaries, communicate openly, nurture intimacy, and remain faithful to their marriage covenant.

If you are already struggling with infidelity, do not continue living in secrecy. Acknowledge the problem and repent. End the illicit relationship and seek godly counsel.

You must also take practical steps to rebuild trust and restore your marriage, where restoration is possible. This process may require time, honesty, accountability, and professional counselling.

May this teaching bless you and help free your home from every attack of the enemy, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

By the grace of God, we shall continue this discussion next month. Please remember to send me your comments and testimonies.

If you have not yet given your life to Jesus Christ, please surrender your life to Him today. Tomorrow may be too late.

Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Welcome to the August edition of The Singles’ World.

In the last edition, I discussed childhood trauma and past sexual exposure as causes of infidelity. This edition explores the consequences of infidelity and the damage it can cause.

Throughout this series, I have shown that infidelity affects society, including the Church of God. Sadly, some Christians behave in ways that contradict the faith they profess. Such behaviour causes unbelievers to question the Christian faith.

As believers and disciples of Jesus Christ, we must live with eternity in view. We must also allow the Bible to guide our conduct because it is our ultimate standard for Christian living.

The Bible clearly forbids adultery. Hebrews 13:4 declares that we must keep the marriage bed undefiled. This command is not merely a suggestion or fatherly advice. It is a divine instruction for believers who desire to honour God and finish their Christian journey faithfully. The Scripture warns, “But whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

None of the causes of infidelity discussed in this series excuses adultery before God. Your position, social status, service in God’s vineyard, marital difficulties, or ignorance will not excuse this sin on the Day of Judgment.

Having examined several causes of infidelity, I will now discuss its consequences.

I pray that the Lord will help us keep our marriage beds holy and undefiled until the end. May this edition bless you tremendously, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Effects of Infidelity

1. Emotional Damage

One of the most devastating consequences of infidelity is emotional damage. A betrayed spouse may experience what people often call betrayal trauma. The discovery can destroy the trust that once held the marriage together.

Your spouse may no longer see you as the faithful, trustworthy, and responsible partner she once admired. The confidence she placed in you may be severely shaken or even destroyed.

The marriage vows you both treasured may suddenly seem meaningless. Memories of your wedding day may also become painful reminders of your betrayal.

Your spouse may begin to revisit past suspicions that she once dismissed. She may feel regret, anger, and confusion. She may also ask herself painful questions about what she could have done differently.

Your betrayal may cause deep emotional anguish. Your spouse may struggle with anxiety, insecurity, depression, or emotional withdrawal. Your presence in the home may remind her of the person she once trusted completely.

Even when you make genuine efforts to show love, she may still view your actions with suspicion. This happens because your betrayal has damaged the foundation of trust.

Some betrayed spouses find it extremely difficult to trust their partners again. Healing may take a long time. In some cases, professional counselling and pastoral support can help them process their pain.

Sadly, some people hide their suffering until it becomes overwhelming. They may feel ashamed to speak about the betrayal or fear what others will say.

This is why you must resist infidelity, no matter how attractive the temptation may seem. A moment of pleasure can produce years of pain.

2. Spiritual Damage

Infidelity can also cause serious spiritual damage. One of its first consequences may be guilt. If you are genuinely born again and conscious of God’s holiness, you may experience deep conviction after committing adultery.

Even after you confess your sin and receive God’s forgiveness, you may still struggle with shame and accusations. Revelation 12:10 describes Satan as “the accuser of our brethren.”

However, we must distinguish between godly conviction and condemnation. Godly conviction leads us to repentance and change. Condemnation, on the other hand, seeks to keep us trapped in shame, even after genuine repentance.

Unresolved guilt and shame can exhaust you emotionally and spiritually. They may weaken your fellowship with God and affect your consecration.

Your prayer life may suffer, and Bible study may lose its appeal. You may also begin to miss church meetings and other spiritual activities. Over time, spiritual coldness and backsliding may follow.

The enemy seeks more than a believer’s fall into sexual sin. He also seeks to weaken that believer’s relationship with God and damage their Christian testimony.

Infidelity can therefore bring serious losses to the individual, the family, and the Kingdom of God.

If you are a church leader, the consequences may also affect your ministry. Depending on the circumstances and your church’s policies, you may face suspension or need to step aside from certain responsibilities.

You may also lose the trust of people who once looked to you for spiritual guidance and prayer. Rebuilding that trust can take time and requires genuine repentance, accountability, and consistent conduct.

The consequences can be especially painful within the family. Your children may wonder why you no longer preach, teach, or participate in ministry as you once did.

If they have always regarded you as a spiritual example, your actions may confuse and disappoint them. They may even ask difficult questions such as, “Daddy, Mummy, why did you do it?”

If you taught them to resist temptation, they may also ask, “Why didn’t you resist the temptation?”

These questions can be painful. However, they remind us of the responsibility that comes with Christian leadership and parenthood.

Those who refuse to confess and repent may also continue in destructive patterns. Persistent disobedience to God’s Word can damage a person’s spiritual life, relationships, emotional well-being, and reputation.

We must therefore take sin seriously and seek genuine repentance. We should not dismiss the consequences of deliberate disobedience or assume that our actions will leave our lives untouched.

The consequences of infidelity are numerous. We cannot discuss them all in a single article. Those who have experienced them often understand their severity more deeply than those who have only taught about them.

This is why the Bible declares, “Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice” (1 Samuel 15:22).

How to Guard Against Infidelity

If you are married, guard yourself and your home against every form of infidelity. Do not wait until temptation develops into an affair before establishing boundaries.

Guard your heart, your eyes, your conversations, and your friendships. Be mindful of how you use your devices and protect the marriage covenant you made before God.

If you are single, begin building the character and discipline you will need in marriage. Develop spiritual strength and firm moral convictions now.

Remember that faithfulness in marriage begins with the character you build before marriage.

May the Lord preserve our homes from every form of infidelity and sexual immorality, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

By the grace of God, we shall continue this discussion next month. Please remember to send me your comments and testimonies.

If you have not yet given your life to Jesus Christ, please surrender your life to Him today. Tomorrow may be too late.

Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Welcome to the July edition of The Singles’ World.

In the last edition, I discussed spiritual weakness as one of the major causes of infidelity. This edition examines another important factor. Although the Bible clearly forbids adultery, infidelity remains common in today’s society. Sadly, both Christians and unbelievers engage in it.

Christians are called to reflect the image of Christ. Yet, many compromise their faith and follow the standards of the world. The lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes have overwhelmed many believers. As a result, some now view purity and holiness as outdated or unrealistic.

Consequently, many Christian marriages are breaking down. Children also suffer when homes become unstable and parents struggle to provide proper guidance. Today, it is becoming increasingly difficult to distinguish some Christian homes from those of unbelievers. Sadly, this gives others reasons to ridicule the Christian faith. Sexual immorality has become a concern both inside and outside the Church.

In this edition, I will discuss another important cause of infidelity. May the Lord grant us understanding and preserve our homes from every form of sexual immorality and impurity, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Childhood Trauma and Past Sexual Exposure

Many marital challenges have deep roots. Childhood experiences often shape how people relate to others, including their future spouses.

Some people grow up in hostile homes. They witness domestic violence, abuse, or constant conflict. Others experience neglect, hunger, poverty, or severe deprivation. Some children also endure street hawking, sexual molestation, or other forms of abuse.

These painful experiences can affect a child’s emotional and psychological development. Their effects may also continue into adulthood.

Some survivors become withdrawn, insecure, or fearful of relationships. Others struggle with trust or develop deep resentment towards men or women. Some may even become afraid of marriage itself.

When these individuals marry, their unresolved pain may create challenges. Their spouses may struggle to understand their fears, reactions, or emotional needs. Without proper support, these difficulties can put pressure on the marriage and increase the risk of unhealthy coping behaviours, including infidelity.

Others may develop unhealthy relationship patterns after experiencing abuse or neglect. Some may struggle with sexual boundaries, promiscuity, or harmful behaviour towards others. Although they may profess faith in Christ, their actions may still reflect unresolved pain and unhealthy patterns from the past. Such struggles require accountability, healing, and a commitment to living according to Christ’s teachings.

The Effects of Premature Sexual Exposure

Another important concern is early exposure to sexual activity. Such experiences can affect a child’s emotional, psychological, and sexual development.

Some children experience sexual abuse from fathers, stepfathers, relatives, neighbours, teachers, or other perpetrators. Others witness sexual activity between adults in their homes. These experiences may awaken sexual curiosity before children have the maturity to understand what they see.

Economic hardship also creates challenges for some families. Parents and children may have to share a room because they cannot afford separate bedrooms. Some parents mistakenly assume that their children are asleep when they engage in intimate activities. In other cases, carelessness, such as leaving bedroom doors unsecured, exposes children to inappropriate scenes.

Parents and caregivers must take these risks seriously. They should protect children from sexual abuse and exposure to sexual activity. Every child deserves a safe environment in which to grow and develop.

Early sexual exposure can leave lasting emotional impressions. Some children may begin engaging in sexual behaviour at a very young age. Easy access to pornography through mobile phones, social media, television, films, and other digital devices can further expose young people to harmful sexual content.

In addition, peer pressure may introduce some young people to alcohol, smoking, drug misuse, or substances they believe will improve sexual performance. Some students also enter cohabiting relationships and engage in sexual activity while still in school or university.

These experiences do not affect everyone in the same way. However, early sexual exposure and unhealthy relationship patterns can create challenges later in life. Some individuals develop unrealistic expectations about sex. Others struggle with emotional intimacy, trust, or sexual fulfilment in marriage.

People who engaged in repeated casual sexual relationships before marriage may also find it difficult to adjust to marital commitment. They may struggle to embrace the exclusivity and responsibility that marriage requires. In some cases, dissatisfaction or unresolved habits may become a source of temptation. Without proper support and self-discipline, this may increase the risk of infidelity.

Psalm 11:3 asks, “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

The foundations of our lives can influence our future relationships. Childhood trauma and early sexual exposure may cause some people to fear intimacy. Others may continually seek sexual experiences or satisfaction that no spouse can realistically provide.

Some individuals may also develop patterns of sexual behaviour that make healthy marital intimacy difficult. Past experiences, emotional wounds, and unrealistic expectations can all contribute to these struggles. However, people can seek help, develop healthier patterns, and work towards meaningful change.

Healing from Past Experiences

Women who have experienced severe sexual trauma may struggle with intimacy in marriage. Without appropriate support, some may find it difficult to express affection or feel safe during sexual intimacy. Their struggles should not invite blame or condemnation. Instead, they need understanding, patience, and access to appropriate care.

Similarly, men who engaged in sexual promiscuity before becoming Christians may struggle to adjust to a faithful, monogamous relationship. If they do not address their past habits, those patterns may continue to affect their marriages. Women with similar histories may face comparable challenges.

Couples should therefore approach courtship with honesty, openness, and emotional maturity. They should discuss significant past experiences when appropriate and seek help for unresolved issues before marriage. Genuine repentance, spiritual growth, and emotional healing can help people move beyond destructive patterns.

Where necessary, couples should seek support from qualified Christian counsellors, pastors, therapists, or medical professionals. Some situations require professional counselling, specialised therapy, or medical care alongside prayer and biblical guidance.

Those who carry the wounds of childhood trauma or struggle with infidelity should not suffer in silence. They should seek appropriate help and remain willing to confront harmful patterns. Pastors can provide spiritual guidance, while qualified professionals can help address emotional and psychological needs.

Above all, genuine salvation, a consistent prayer life, and obedience to God’s Word remain essential to the Christian life. With God’s grace, personal accountability, and appropriate support, people can work towards healthier relationships and greater faithfulness in marriage.

Key Lessons

1. Every marriage requires intentional protection. Couples must guard their relationship and remain faithful to their marriage covenant.

2. Childhood trauma can affect marital relationships. Unresolved pain may influence trust, intimacy, and behaviour in adulthood.

3. Healing is possible through Christ and appropriate support. Prayer, spiritual growth, counselling, and professional care can help people address past wounds.

4. Openness and accountability strengthen marriage. Honest communication and responsible choices help couples build trust.

5. God can restore what the enemy has sought to destroy. With faith, commitment, and appropriate support, couples can work towards healing and restoration.

It is my prayer that everyone battling the effects of childhood trauma or past sexual experiences will receive healing, restoration, and complete deliverance through the power of Jesus Christ.

May the Lord preserve our homes and help every husband and wife remain holy, faithful, and steadfast in their marriage covenant, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

By the grace of God, we will continue this discussion next month. Please remember to send me your comments and testimonies.

If you have not given your life to Jesus Christ, I encourage you to surrender your life to Him today. Do not delay this important decision.

Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Welcome to the June edition of The Singles’ World. In the last edition, I discussed peer influence and modern culture as major contributors to the prevalence of infidelity in society today, in addition to the other causes previously examined. The Bible expressly forbids adultery, yet it has become a common sin among both Christians and unbelievers. Sadly, those who ought to be the light of the world have become entangled in the very sin that should characterise only the ungodly. Consequently, many Christian marriages are collapsing, while children from such broken homes are left to endure deep emotional and psychological trauma. This also gives unbelievers an opportunity to ridicule our God and discredit the message we preach. This teaching is therefore necessary to remind us of the importance of shunning every form of infidelity so that we may enjoy God’s purpose for marriage. In this edition, I shall discuss another major cause of infidelity. It is my prayer that this teaching will be a blessing to every one of us, in the name of Jesus Christ.

Spiritual Weakness

 Behind every sin forbidden by God is a spiritual battle. From the Garden of Eden, the devil has sought to influence both believers and unbelievers to act contrary to the Word of God. Even when a person sincerely desires to obey God, Satan seeks to entice and deceive them into disobedience so that they may incur God’s judgement.

The disobedience of Adam and Eve was instigated by the serpent, a symbol of the devil. Samson, who possessed an extraordinary ministry of deliverance, was influenced into violating his Nazirite covenant. As a result, he lost both his ministry and his life. In 1 Chronicles 21:1, the Bible tells us that Satan provoked David to number Israel, bringing God’s judgement upon the nation. Likewise, Peter was influenced by Satan when he opposed the suffering and death of Jesus Christ (Matthew 16:23). Jesus rebuked Satan rather than Peter because He recognised the true source of Peter’s words. Judas Iscariot presents another example. Luke 22:3 tells us that Satan entered into him, leading him to betray the Lord Jesus Christ.

The Scriptures contain numerous examples demonstrating that Satan is the instigator of sin. Human beings become his instruments when they yield to his influence, and whether they obey or resist depends largely upon their spiritual condition. This is why 1 John 3:8 declares, “He that committeth sin is of the devil.” Satan’s chief objective is to oppose the Word of God and to lead people into rebellion against Him. Sexual immorality is no exception.

From my understanding of demonology, sexual sins such as fornication, adultery, uncleanness, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, rape, and incest are often fuelled by demonic powers, particularly those commonly described as marine spirits. When such sins are committed, spiritual bonds may be formed that place individuals under demonic oppression and bondage. For this reason, the devil relentlessly targets Christian marriages, and infidelity has become one of his most effective weapons for wreaking havoc in Christian homes.

A decline in one’s prayer life and personal devotion leads to moral vulnerability (Galatians 5:16). When you become spiritually weak, your spiritual sensitivity is diminished. Your ability to recognize temptation and discern the warning signs of infidelity becomes impaired. Spiritual weakness therefore leaves many Christians vulnerable to adultery.

Many Christian men and women were spiritually vibrant while they were single but gradually became spiritually cold after marriage. Others remained spiritually strong for a time before becoming lukewarm through the pressures of life. Common excuses include heavy workloads, busyness, family responsibilities, workplace pressures, and stress. Yet none of these justifies neglecting our relationship with God.

When personal prayer and Bible study become burdensome, when attending church services becomes optional, when serving in the church feels inconvenient, when you begin to sleep spiritually instead of remaining watchful, when you walk in the flesh rather than in the Spirit, when serving God becomes wearisome, and when eternity is no longer in view, you gradually become desensitized to sin. You may even begin to flirt with temptation without any sense of conviction. The devil is always looking for opportunities to attack believers when they are spiritually weak (2 Samuel 17:2). It is during such seasons of weakness that he seeks to ensnare God’s people through sexual immorality. This is why Jesus commanded us to “watch and pray” (Matthew 26:41). Likewise, we are instructed to “be sober, be vigilant” (1 Peter 5:8). These are essential spiritual disciplines that help us resist the temptation of adultery. The battle against infidelity is not merely physical; it is profoundly spiritual.

Ephesians 6:12 reminds us that we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers, while 2 Corinthians 10:4 teaches that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God. Christian couples must therefore remain spiritually alert and never allow the fire upon their altar to go out. When spiritual discernment is lost, deception becomes easy.

Instead of rebuking an agent of darkness sent to seduce you, or fleeing from a Delilah determined to destroy your spiritual strength, you may find yourself entertaining the very temptation you should resist. Spiritual weakness makes a believer an easy target for the enemy.

May the Lord renew your strength so that you will not grow weary. Every doorway that spiritual weakness has opened for the spirit of sexual immorality to attack your marriage is closed in the name of Jesus Christ. I bind every spirit of infidelity and sexual immorality operating in your home, in the name of Jesus Christ. Every ungodly spiritual bond established through sexual immorality between you and the kingdom of darkness is broken in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen. By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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My name is Jennifer Titus, and I am from Nasarawa State, Nigeria. Professionally, I wear several hats: I am a lawyer, a public relations executive, and a talent manager. At my core, I am passionate about helping people and building things that create lasting impact. Whether I am advising clients, managing talent, negotiating opportunities, or shaping public narratives, I enjoy being part of journeys that help individuals and organizations grow into their full potential. Outside of work, I am a proud aunt and godmother. Some of my greatest joys come from spending time with my nieces, nephews, and godchildren, watching them grow, celebrating their milestones, and being a source of love, guidance, and support in their lives. Family means a great deal to me, and I cherish the relationships that keep me grounded and remind me of what truly matters.

What motivated you to do this?

I’ve always loved the entertainment industry. Long before I became a lawyer, I was the girl who was fascinated by music, film, fashion, and everything in between. I actually tried modelling while I was in school, but between lectures, assignments, and the of school, something had to give, and modelling drew the short straw. At the same time, I had always wanted to become a lawyer. Law was never a backup plan for me it was something I was deeply committed to pursuing so once I got called to the Bar, it felt natural to find my way back to the entertainment space.

How long have you been doing this and what drew your attention you to it?

In many ways, I’ve been interested in the entertainment industry for as long as I can remember. I’ve always been drawn to creative spaces, especially music. Even as a student, I paid attention to artists, their careers, and the business behind their success. Professionally, I began working within the industry after becoming a lawyer. Once I was called to the Bar, I realized I could combine my legal training with an industry I had always loved. I became intentional about learning, taking courses, reaching out to people already in the space, asking questions, and seeking mentorship wherever I could find it. Over time, that journey expanded beyond entertainment law into public relations and talent management, allowing me to work more closely with creatives and contribute to their growth in different ways

What do you enjoy most about what you do now?

The opportunity to be part of people’s journeys. Whether I am advising a client, negotiating a deal, managing talent, or helping shape a public narrative, I enjoy knowing that my work contributes in some way to someone else’s growth and success. I also love the diversity of what I do. No two days are exactly the same. One day I may be reviewing contracts, another day I may be discussing strategy with an artist, managing a project, or helping to solve a completely unexpected problem. That variety keeps things interesting and constantly challenges me to learn and grow. Most importantly, I enjoy working with creative and ambitious people. There is something incredibly rewarding about seeing an idea become a reality, watching talent develop, and knowing that you played a role, however small, in helping someone achieve their goals. Those moments make the work worthwhile.

Can you describe a challenge you’ve faced in your role now and how you overcame it?

One challenge I’ve faced is breaking into the entertainment industry without having a roadmap or many connections. It can be difficult finding opportunities in a space where relationships and experience matter so much. I became intentional. I took courses, sought mentorship, asked questions, and wasn’t afraid to start small. Over time, those efforts opened doors and helped me build credibility.

What keeps you motivated and driven?

Seeing women who look like me excel and do incredible things in this field. Their success reminds me of what is possible. Also, I like nice things. Money is always a good motivator.

How do you stay updated and continue to grow?

I stay updated by continuously learning. I take courses, attend trainings, read, and learn and ask a lot of questions from people who have gone ahead of me. I never want to be the smartest person in the room, so I try to stay curious, ask questions, and remain open to growth.

Can you share a significant accomplishment or project you’ve worked on recently?

Honestly, I see every project I work on as an accomplishment. That said, opening my own firm is probably the accomplishment I’m most proud of.

What goals do you have in the near future?

I hope to grow my law firm, build a successful PR firm, and continue expanding my footprint in the entertainment industry. Most importantly, I want to keep becoming the kind of woman I once looked up to.

How do you maintain work-life balance, and in what ways does your faith influence your motivation and vision?

Honestly, I’m still learning how to balance it all. Some days are better than others. But I’m fortunate to have amazing friends and family in my corner. My friends are truly angels in my life, and my family keeps me grounded. My faith influences everything. It shapes how I approach both the good days and the difficult ones.

How have marriage or significant relationships impacted your personal and professional plans?

I think the people we love inevitably shape us. The significant relationships in my life have taught me important lessons about communication, grace, resilience, and growth. They’ve influenced my plans by reminding me that while ambition is important, relationships matter too.

How do you see what you’re passionate about evolving in the coming years, and what steps are you taking?

I see my passion evolving into something bigger than my imagination. As for the steps I’m taking, I just keep showing up and doing my absolute best.

What will you tell your younger self?

I would tell my younger self to put herself out there earlier and stop second-guessing herself. Most of the things I worried about never happened, and some of my best opportunities came from simply showing up. Trust yourself. Take the chance. Send the email. Apply for the role. You’ll figure it out along the way.

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Nothing that lasts grows fast. There must be roots that form downwards first, the foundation must be solid and even if it looks like there aren’t fruits at first, we must not forget the law of growth and process. That is something we emphasize so much in TOB. The leaves will come out eventually, then flowers, then seed and then fruit. We started this brand with a blog and now it has grown into something far greater than we imagined.

We are three individuals, all medical doctors in different parts of the world, different time zones, living separate lives and in these individual lives there have been many changes and transitions. Sometimes the olive branch has transitioned as well, bending and stretching, but always growing. We have been on the precipice of giving up many times but through your prayers, your love and by the help of God, we are still standing today, still rooted, still reaching.

You have seen some of our fruits and you have seen some of our leaves. Many of you have been there through every single season and we see you, we truly do. With a community now, a foundation and so much more still unfolding, we are deeply thankful for those who were with us in the very beginning, for those who found us along the way and for those who are still here. We are equally grateful to our volunteers, our web and design team, our families, and our friends. Every soul who has ever engaged with us, thank you. You believed in something that was still becoming and that is a gift we do not take lightly. Thank you for your support and your ideas. Thank you for seeing us. Even in the moments we struggled to see ourselves, you were there.

We also recently did an impact survey and we were so moved and honored by the responses. We would love to hear even more from you, so please take a moment to fill it out here (Google form)

Also, our Foundation, The Olive Network for Empowerment otherwise known as TONE, will be embarking on our inaugural project very soon and we cannot wait to share more with you. For now, please follow us on Instagram @theoliveempowerment and keep an eye out for our next cohort of volunteers for the Olive Community later this year!

To anyone reading this today, wherever in the world you are, this part is for you. The world may feel heavy right now. There may be uncertainty pressing in from every side, clouds of sadness gathered and for some, you may be in a wilderness season, waiting and wondering. Some of you may be welcoming new life into the world and some may be in the process of saying goodbye. You may be surrounded by so much noise and fear that silence has started to feel like the only safe place left.
But please, do not stay there. Step out and feel again. There is still hope as long as there is breath in you, there is still so much waiting for you on the other side of this moment. There are still territories to conquer, mountains to overcome and a version of yourself you have not yet met. You are still wanted, still needed, still so deeply significant. Do not give up. Life will not always feel this way. Good people still exist and good things are still making their way to you. Some may even be happening right now.

As we mark eleven years, we send our love across every time zone represented in this community. We hope we have touched you in ways that words cannot fully capture and we hope that what you have received here has stirred something in you that reaches beyond these walls. Because the world is hurting and it needs people like you, people who have known tenderness, to carry it forward. Let the love you have received become the love you give away, in the way you speak, in the way you show up, in the quiet moments where a kind word or a warm presence can completely change someone’s day both online and offline. Do not get lost in the cruelty that the world sometimes shows. Hold on to your joy and choose, again and again, to be the kind of person someone else needed and found. Spread love today.

By Ayokunle for The Olive Branch.

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Welcome to the May edition of The Singles’ World in 2026. In the last edition, I discussed opportunity and weak boundaries as another cause of infidelity in Christian homes. When relationships, especially between members of the opposite sex, are not clearly defined and boundaries are weak, the devil can use such opportunities to lure people into sexual immorality. While it is impossible to legislate against contact between the opposite sex, particularly among married people, it is imperative that married individuals establish proper boundaries in their relationships with persons other than their spouses. Such boundaries must be carefully guarded and monitored both physically and spiritually. Whenever those boundaries begin to weaken, deliberate efforts must be made to retreat. Sexual instincts are not to be toyed with without grave repercussions. When Christian homes are plagued by adultery, what should we expect from the marriages of unbelievers? Christian homes are prime targets of Satan, and we must be careful not to give the devil an opportunity to cause unbelievers to blaspheme the name of the Lord. In this edition, I shall discuss another major cause of infidelity in Christian homes.

Peer Influence and Modern Culture

The friends we keep and the company we associate with greatly influence our lifestyles. Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpeneth iron…” When we keep the right company, our lives improve; when we keep the wrong company, we inevitably suffer the consequences. This is why the Scripture warns that evil communication corrupts good manners. As a Christian, if you constantly associate with divorcees, adulterers, adulteresses, polygamists, harlots, and others who rebel against God’s standard, you may gradually begin to learn their ways. Ironically, it is often easier for evil to corrupt good than for good to influence evil. That is why the Scripture warns us not to make friendship with an angry person lest we learn his ways. We live in a world where peer influence is overwhelming. For example, Amnon, the son of David, kept the wrong company in Jonadab, whose ungodly counsel eventually contributed to Amnon’s destruction.

Close relationships with unbelievers, immoral individuals, and backsliders can be dangerous for married Christians. When such people become your counsellors, guides, teachers, or financial supporters, you may begin to absorb their ungodly lifestyles. People cannot give what they do not possess. Many Christian homes have been destroyed because couples failed to exercise discernment in their associations with those who oppose the Word of God. Do not allow the devil to deceive you into thinking that showing love necessarily means maintaining close companionship with ungodly people. You can show love without forming intimate associations with them. You cannot be wiser than God.

The glorification of the “side-chick” culture is one of the disturbing trends in modern society. Both married men and women participate in this culture. Sadly, some Christians have become entangled in it, as marital fidelity is now viewed by many as old-fashioned, while the side-chick culture is celebrated as a modern lifestyle that promotes sexual freedom. Many people argue that life must be enjoyed to the fullest and, since there is mutual consent between the parties involved, such relationships are no longer regarded as sinful or as violations of God’s Word. Eventually, these so-called side-chicks often replace the lawful wives at home, while women involved in such immoral relationships sometimes bring illegitimate children into their marriages. Countless homes have collapsed because of this spirit of sexual permissiveness. The Word of God remains clear: “Thou shalt not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). Though the world may glorify sexual sin through the promotion of side-chick culture, Christians must not conform to such practices. Friendship with people who indulge in these lifestyles can negatively influence you. This is why you must avoid close companionship with those who practise such things, lest you follow their evil ways.

Conclusion

Your marriage bed must remain undefiled. Honour your marriage and remain faithful to your spouse, for the wrath of God will come upon adulterers and adulteresses. Stay away from friends who can easily influence you negatively. You may be ridiculed, called names, or labelled old-fashioned, but do not be moved. Devote yourself to the Word of God and to prayer. Be sober and vigilant. The Lord will preserve your home. If you are single, the Lord will help you to remain faithful to your future spouse to the very end, in the name of Jesus Christ. Let your marriage glorify God. By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Welcome to the April edition of Singles’ World. In the last edition, I discussed spiritual weakness or broken fellowship with God as one of the causes of adultery and also proposed biblical solutions to it.

As stated at the beginning of this series, this study has become necessary in view of the prevalence of adultery and divorce in society today, including within Christian families, which ought to serve as examples to the world. Unfortunately, many Christian homes are also struggling with infidelity and divorce, making it more difficult for unbelievers to come to faith in Jesus Christ.

Christians are expected to be true disciples of Jesus Christ, living according to His teachings. Although believers are not immune to life’s challenges, adultery—being a work of the flesh—should not be found in Christian homes.

In this edition, I wish to discuss another cause of adultery. It is my prayer that the Lord will grant us receptive hearts to receive the engrafted Word of God, which is able to save our souls, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Opportunity and Weak Boundaries

Second Corinthians 2:11 warns us “Lest Satan should take advantage of us, for we are not ignorant of his devices.” The devil often exploits the ignorance of believers by taking advantage of every opportunity they create. He is described as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour—an opportunist who thrives on open doors. If we do not give him room, he cannot gain access to our lives or homes. This is why Scripture admonishes us in Ephesians 4:27 to give no place to the devil.

One common avenue the enemy exploits is travel. When individuals are away from their familiar environment and accountability structures, they may become more vulnerable. During such trips, one may reconnect with an old friend, classmate, or former romantic partner. What begins as harmless interaction—hugs, pecks, or warm greetings—can quickly escalate into inappropriate intimacy and eventually immorality. Even official trips with a colleague of the opposite sex can become a trap if proper boundaries are not maintained. Christian couples must therefore exercise great caution in their interactions during travel—whether in transit, at their place of lodging, or in casual engagements.

Another area of concern is excessive office familiarity. Some workplace relationships become inappropriately close. For example:

• Secretaries becoming overly familiar with their employers

• Married colleagues engaging in flirtatious behaviour

• Casual physical contact such as hugging or kissing under the guise of “harmless fun”

• Terms like “office wife” or “office husband” used jokingly

Such behaviour gradually erodes boundaries. What appears harmless can develop into emotional entanglement and, ultimately, adultery. While cordial workplace relationships are not wrong, closeness with the opposite sex—especially involving married individuals—must be clearly defined and carefully moderated to avoid becoming a snare.

Private lunches also present another subtle opportunity. When married colleagues frequently share meals alone—whether in the office or outside—it can foster emotional bonding. Over time, this bond may weaken moral resistance and create a pathway for temptation. One must ask honestly: Why cultivate such closeness with another person’s spouse?

Another sensitive area is mentorship that turns into emotional involvement. This may occur:

• Between a male supervisor and a married female subordinate

• Between a married pastor and a church member, particularly a woman facing marital challenges or a widow seeking guidance

While mentorship and counselling are important, they must be handled with wisdom and clear boundaries—especially where the individuals involved are of the opposite sex. Many homes, ministries, and churches have suffered damage due to unguarded relationships in such contexts.

Conclusion

We are responsible for our actions and the choices we make. As Christians, we must remain vigilant and give no place to the devil. Every opportunity that grants access to sin must be consciously blocked.

Adultery is a choice—and avoiding it is possible.

Christian homes are meant to be lights in the world. Therefore, we must not live carelessly, indulgently, or recklessly, but with vigilance, discipline, and wisdom—redeeming the time because the days are evil.

We must avoid any association with adultery so that the name of the Lord is not dishonoured. Adultery is scandalous and brings reproach upon individuals, families, and the Church.

It is my prayer that the Lord will open your eyes to areas of weak boundaries in your life and grant you the grace and strength to take the necessary steps to live a holy life. May the Lord preserve your marriage as holy, sanctified, and honourable before both God and men, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Welcome to the March edition of Singles’ World. In the last edition, I discussed lack of intimacy as one of the causes of adultery and also proposed biblical solutions to it.

As stated at the beginning of this series, this study has become necessary in view of the increasing prevalence of adultery and divorce in society today—including within Christian families, which ought to serve as examples to the world. Sadly, even the families of ministers of God are not exempt, as cases of infidelity and divorce are becoming more common. This unfortunate trend casts the Church of God in a negative light and makes it more difficult for unbelievers to embrace the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Christians are expected to be true disciples of Jesus Christ, living according to His teachings. Although believers are not immune to life’s challenges, adultery—being a work of the flesh—should not be found among Christian families.

In this edition, I wish to discuss another cause of adultery. It is my prayer that the Lord will grant us receptive hearts to receive the truth of His Word, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Spiritual Weakness / Broken Fellowship with God

Apart from lack of intimacy, spiritual weakness—manifested through a broken or declining fellowship with God—is a major cause of adultery. When devotion declines in the home, moral sensitivity also declines.

One of the key antidotes to sin is walking in the Spirit, as stated in Galatians 5:16: “Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.” This implies that when we are sensitive to the voice and promptings of the Holy Spirit—our Guide and Teacher—it becomes difficult to live carelessly in sin, including adultery.

This underscores the importance of maintaining regular devotion to God. When we neglect or trivialise our quiet time and daily fellowship with God, and allow worldly or carnal activities to replace it, we gradually push aside the influence of the Holy Spirit and give room for the enemy to take control.

It is in the place of prayer and devotion that we receive divine warnings against impending temptations. Through consistent, reverent, and meditative study of the Word of God, the Holy Spirit speaks personally to us—highlighting specific Scriptures and directing our attention to what we need for each day.

The Holy Spirit knows:

• The challenges ahead

• The hidden dangers along our path

• The “valleys,” “hills,” and “rough roads” before us

• The individuals who may become sources of temptation

• The relationships and transactions that could endanger our lives

• The enemies disguised as friends

• The “wolves in sheep’s clothing” that threaten our lives and ministry

• Even opportunities, favours, or promotions that may weaken our resistance to sin

When we fail to maintain close fellowship with God through the Holy Spirit, our moral sensitivity becomes weakened. We begin to tolerate what we once rejected because the Word of God forbids it. We start to embrace what we previously condemned.

The boundaries we once respected—especially in our interactions with the opposite sex—begin to fade. We begin to misuse the grace of God as a licence for sin. Actions that once troubled our conscience no longer do so.

As stated in Romans 13:14, we begin to “make provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.” Scripture also warns in Ecclesiastes 10:8 that “whoso breaketh an hedge, a serpent shall bite him.”

For example:

• You once refused to give or receive seductive compliments from a married person

• You avoided inappropriate physical contact (such as hugging or pecking)

• You avoided secret dealings with someone of the opposite sex

• You rejected worldly influences and suggestive dressing

However, as your devotion declines, your perception changes. You no longer see things as the Holy Spirit does. What once repulsed you now becomes acceptable, and your spiritual guard is lowered.

This explains why King Saul, though once anointed by God, consulted the witch of Endor when he could no longer hear from God. It also explains why David cried out in Psalm 51:11, pleading with God not to take His Holy Spirit from him.

When you are far from the Holy Spirit, you are naturally drawn towards the world, and sin becomes inevitable. James 4:8 declares, “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.” The reverse is also true—when you draw away from God, you distance yourself from His protection.

In a world where Satan is actively seeking whom he may devour, your safety is not guaranteed outside of close fellowship with God.

Today, many Christians are preoccupied with careers and worldly pursuits, neglecting their relationship with God. Prayer, Bible study, and regular church attendance have become burdens rather than opportunities for spiritual growth.

One of the greatest safeguards against adultery is a strong and consistent fellowship with God.

When you notice:

• A decline in your devotion

• A weakening love for God

• Reduced commitment to His service

You must rise and fight the good fight of faith so that sin—including adultery—does not gain access to your life.

When you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. Adultery, like every other sin, is avoidable. While it may be tolerated among unbelievers, it remains an abomination in Christian homes.

May the Lord help you to walk in the Spirit and to prioritize your devotion and fellowship with Him on a daily basis, in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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This isn’t one of my usual stories.
This actually is an uplifting article. Something I feel I should share with you all personally.
I will try to be as simple as possible so here it goes.

Finding purpose through pain is something most people experience but few talk about openly. I think everyone has gone through a form of pain. It could be physical or emotional or both. My point is we have all gone through pain. It reminds us that we are human.
Purpose. Purpose is something everyone should have. Not everyone has realized it but everyone has it.
I recently went through an emotionally painful season in my life. It was a series of painful things that happened within a period of time and because there was no time to deal with each of them individually, I had to compartmentalize and then I went through something psychiatry calls “isolation of affect”. I detached the emotions from the situation and had to move on, to act.
When I first wrote this years ago, i remember the circumstances surrounding it vaguely but I know it wasn’t compared to what I have gone through over the years.

At the same time, my purpose wasn’t really revealed to me. I had an inkling of the things I would do and become but I wasn’t implementing anything and I felt waiting for a relationship would be my starting point. It was then in 2018, I made the decision to heal and accepted that everything else will fall into place as time goes on. I didn’t have much clarity but I just knew I had to grow and to keep going.
I am glad I made that choice because I am still single even now. Imagine I had waited to live😂

Back to the healing journey. I discovered I had layers of pain hidden, well tucked within me but I also discovered my purpose. You can say the pain gave me a probe to look within. It gave me a reason to turn inwards and find out what was missing.
Jesus came and began the process. I became more serious with my spiritual life and I opened myself to Jesus to take away the pain.
There was shame at first and regret, and at some point, there was a rock bottom that I thought couldn’t go much deeper, but it did. Oh it did.
Then light came on that road. I stopped looking within, and I looked up, and I saw light.
Light made me see.

Many times, we get consumed by our own burdens that we cannot see anything else and I get it. It feels like you are literally drowning.
But something happens when you let go and look up. Looking up here means looking to Jesus.
Looking up here means taking away the focus from that which plagues you so badly.
Look. Up.
It is when this happens that you finally see your pain in a different lens. There is a change that occurs.
>A change that forces belief. A change that forces faith. A change that makes people question your sanity because you start to smile genuinely even in the midst of hurt.
If you want to allow pain to change you, let it be that you become a better version of yourself.
Do not let it mould you into a model that is supposed to be outdated.
When light comes, you realize how closely tied that pain is with your purpose. With your destiny.

I wrote this originally in 2018 and looking back, I survived and even thrived. It seems so minuscule now and that’s what it will continue to look like.
Just imagine a space craft leaving earth, the farther it goes, the tinier earth becomes to it. Even an airplane in the sky, the higher it goes, the tinier things look on the surface.
Pain gives you perspective. It gave me perspective.
I still don’t know why some things happened to me, I may never know but I know a fact; that all things work together FOR GOOD to them that love God and are called according to his purpose(Rom 8:28).

You must also be brave. Deciding to rise higher means looking inwards and then looking up. The Ayo of 2018 wouldn’t have been able to handle what Ayo of 2025 passed through but it is by Gods grace I am who I am today and who I’ll be tomorrow.

To end this, I comfort you with the same comfort I have received. Like Samson’s riddle in Judges 14:14: “…Out of the eater, something to eat; out of the strong, something sweet…”- Honey was found in the carcass of a lion.

Look up and be carried up.
Yours with so much love,

Ayokunle.

P.S: You can also read one of my posts here

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