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Singles’ World February Edition ’25

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 28 Feb 2025 12:38:39 +0000

HABITUAL DYSFUNCTION

Many couples regularly complain that their spouses are disorganised and careless. When you live with a careless and a disorganised person, you will realise you are living with Mr Stress or Mrs Stress. A careless and disorganised person is a bad planner. He muddles things up. He will not be able to discern between minor and major issues, important and frivolous issues, and significant and insignificant issues. When your partner is discussing very important issues, the careless partner may introduce or interject frivolous matters that he considers serious. He overlooked important details. He often makes mistakes without claiming responsibility for his actions but often makes excuses for his mistakes. Such a person acts on impulse without thinking about the consequences. He will disregard the established rules, procedures and safety protocols. Careless people are always reckless. He would like to engage in risky activities without thinking about potential dangers.

Another trait is poor time management. He does not prioritise tasks, and that is why he will miss deadlines. Such a person will always procrastinate. How do you feel when your partner always postpones the important assignments given to him or her? How do you live with someone who has an incorrect attitude towards time? Your partner is given a deadline to submit his application for employment, but he handles it with levity until the deadline expires. Your spouse makes you get to church services late every time. She always arrives at her duty place late, and there are complaints from her employers.

In addition, such people are always easily distracted. These are serious issues that can destabilise families. These observations are serious issues that families constantly battle. This began with individuals in their childhood. Unfortunately, some parents try their best and do not succeed, while others do not make much effort to discipline their children and prevent them from growing up with habitual dysfunction that will eventually ruin their lives and families.

Forgetfulness is another habitual dysfunction. Can you imagine your partner forgetting to brush his teeth every day? Can you imagine your partner forgetting to flush the toilet after using it? Can you imagine your partner forgetting to lock the door after coming inside it? Can you imagine your partner forgetting his or her car key at all times? There are families where partners regularly experience all this from their spouses without any solution. It is very challenging to be sincere.

Honestly, it is difficult to live with a partner in this habitual mess. However, the truth is that you cannot divorce your partner because of the character’s delinquency. In addition, individuals should be sincere to themselves and accept that they have these issues. They should then work on themselves and clean up their behavioural deficiencies. The problem is that after marriage, most people do not do anything to improve their character, especially when their spouses and others have been complaining of these unethical habits.

To minimise conflicts and reduce tension in the family, individuals should accept responsibility for their inappropriate and unacceptable behaviours, and take steps to overcome them. The singles should work assiduously on their characters before they get married. There is no point pretending that you are virtuous when indeed you are as rottenness in the bones of your partner-Prov. 12:4. Nobody is perfect and flawless. However, when there are noticeable, unquestionable, and unbearable flaws in your life, your best way is to address them diligently without any pretence. Practical steps, counselling, and prayers should be deployed, including deliverance, if necessary, to address them before it becomes too late.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Singles’ World January Edition ’25

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 31 Jan 2025 10:41:11 +0000

FOUNDATIONAL ISSUES IN MARRIAGE: VOCATIONAL INCOMPATIBILITY

Compliments of the season to you all! Welcome to the first edition of Singles’ World in 2025. In the last edition, I discussed spatial incompatibility with you, which I consider an important foundational issue that can unsettle many homes if not resolved before marriage. If the man faces north and the woman faces south, they are spatially incompatible. You must resolve where both of you will settle in life, or else you may just be a nomadic or visiting couple. You will not really know each other, and your children may lack fatherly care, motherly care, or both. Besides, you may open the doors of your home to strange women and strange men. When infidelity sets in, divorce or broken home is inevitable.

In this edition, we will look at vocational or career incompatibility as another foundational issue that many intending couples often gloss over before marrying. When a marriage is built on vocational incompatibility, there will be upheavals that can be injurious to the stability of the home. You may be genetically and spatially compatible, and yet you are not vocationally compatible. In Genesis 2:18, God said he would provide Adam with an helpmeet that is suitable or compatible with him. You and your partner must be compatible physically, spiritually, intellectually, vocationally etc. or else there will be schism.

If we are honest and sincere about ourselves during courtship, our problems will be manageable, but we sometimes become desperate in getting married and overlook the weightier matters of life that can weigh down our marriages. For instance, if you are called a pastor in the future, it is not any sister that you can marry. This is because it is not every Christian sister that is wired to marry a pastor. A pastor’s wife should be godly, virtuous, humble, supportive, hospitable, prayerful, wise, faithful, teachable and loyal to her husband, family and church. A woman who is a human rights activist, feminist, or political activist will be incompatible with her husband’s pastoral ministry. This is because the core values of a pastoral ministry are radically different from those of human rights activism or feminism.

A feminist touts gender equality by compromising the biblical stand on the head position of the husband in the family. I have heard cases of women who refused to cooperate with their husbands’ pastoral ministries on the grounds that they were not called into the pastoral ministry. This can be challenging if it is not addressed before marriage. If you marry a potential pastor when you know undoubtedly that your vocation or personality is incompatible with the core values of the pastoral ministry of your husband, you are preparing for unmanageable trouble.

In addition, if you are a costumier or a professional theatre practitioner, whose vocation demands the deployment of African myths and rituals, traditional music and dance as well as the extensive use of makeups on stage, you are incompatible with a man called into the pastoral ministry. Of course, if your vocation is a Christian drama, you are compatible with a man’s pastoral ministry.

Similarly, the work of a missionary involves frequent relocation, cultural adjustments, and unpredictable living conditions. If you value a settled lifestyle, you should not marry a missionary. Some Christian missionary organisations today ensure that missionaries marry missionaries to ensure stability in families.

In addition, if you are an 8-to-4 office worker and you want to marry a military officer whose work requires frequent deployments and unpredictable schedules that can be very challenging for a spouse with a traditional office job, you may not enjoy a settled home for life. Again, if you are a politician, your life as a public officer requires transparency. Such a man is incompatible with a woman who is a private investigator, detective or investigative journalist whose job requires confidentiality.

In the Bible, Aquila and Priscilla as a married couple shared a vocational compatibility as tentmakers and ministers- Acts 18:2-3. Ruth and Boaz too were vocationally compatible as farmers and harvesters. Therefore, vocational compatibility is important in marriage relationships. If you are married to a spouse whose career is incompatible with yours, it is a terrible foundational problem that you will have to face for many years. It may be difficult to change one’s career after marriage in order to resolve the debacle. Prevention is usually cheaper, safer and more effective. May the Lord help you.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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SINGLES WORLD- FEBRUARY EDITION’24

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 23 Feb 2024 22:23:24 +0000

FOUNDATIONAL ISSUES IN MARRIAGE: DEMONIC CHILDREN 2

Welcome to the February edition of the Singles’ World. In the last edition, I discussed demonic children as one of the foundational problems affecting many homes and families today. In this edition, I will continue from where I stopped. It is my prayer that the Lord will deliver families that are going through this in the name of Jesus Christ.

Demonic Children: Some consult babalawo (diviner). Some of the medicines obtained from these sources are directed to be used weirdly either before copulation or after copulation. Some are used by both the couple. Some women are asked to strap plantain stems or yam tubers on their backs at some specific hours of the day or of the night to symbolise the presence of the upcoming baby. Some can also be asked to carry some sacrifices to aid their quick conception.

Babies produced through all these traditional and demonic interventions are in our midst today as friends, classmates, roommates, bunkmates, siblings etc. They too will want to get married one day. Unfortunately, their consent was not sought before their parents obtained them from the idols with covenants. They had no control over their parentage or ancestry. Now that they are grown up adults, they want to live and enjoy what others are enjoying too including getting married.

Apart from those who deliberately consult diviners and idols, some demonic powers can tamper with the pregnancies of some women and exchange the babies in their wombs with demonic ones without the knowledge of the expectant mother. That is why they often say that pregnant women must not go out at 1:00 p.m. or enter the traditional market places in the afternoon. It is also said that pregnant women should not go to the riverside in the afternoon or go out at night.

It is believed that these demonic forces are very active at such periods. That is why pregnant women must be prayerful and be born again if they are not. They should regularly cover themselves with the blood of Jesus Christ. They have no reasons to be afraid as long as they are in Christ Jesus. Those that are not in Christ Jesus are not safe from this demonic oppression and possession. Their pregnancies can be manipulated and their babies will be demonised unknown to the parents.

We have many of them in society today causing troubles and pains. Isaiah 30:9 says “That this is a rebellious people, lying children, children that will not hear the law of the Lord.” Those are children that curse their fathers-Prov. 30:11. Those who can curse their parents can kill their spouses when they get married, because they are demonic children.

Getting married to them is like getting married to the devil. In most cases, they may not know these foundational issues that surround their birth. Some parents will not tell them, and some parents, after getting their babies, renege on the promises and the covenants they made with the idols; the goat they promised to bring to the babalawo annually, the dog or pig they promised to give Olokun yearly. Hence, the young man will face battles in life even before he gets married.

Some of the characteristics of such people obtained from the idols are listed below:

Battling with spirit wife/husband.
Polluted foundation
Sexual lust and perversion
Excessive and uncontrollable anger
Regular and constant evil dreams
Lateness in getting married
Attracted to the wrong partner
Deadlock in marriage
Hostility in the home
Childlessness
Poverty
Adultery and Divorce
Untimely death

The manifestations are inexhaustible. If such people get married, welcome to a marriage of continuous and endless battles, conflicts and struggles without any end in sight. You are not just battling with your spouse; you are in battle with invisible forces behind the birth of your partner. How can you live with emere or ogbanje (spirit child) as your spouse and not have troubles in life. There is no free gift from the devil. When the devil asks you for your cap, he will come for your head later. When he asks you for an egg, he will take a hen from you soon. There is no how you can resolve such marital conflicts in the house without doing something about the polluted foundation of your partner.

If you are already married to a spirit in a human form or to a man or woman with a polluted foundation, how do you get out of this bondage? How do you identify such people? It is only God that can reveal such people to you if you are patient in prayers. Even the person may not know, but the manifestations will be obvious in his life. They are usually difficult, troublesome and uncontrollable children. By the time they are married, it is hell, mehn! If you are lucky to know that your parents asked of you from the idols of the land with covenants attached to it, you need to:

Give your life to Jesus Christ and be born again genuinely now.
Repent of your sins.
Renounce every known and unknown covenant either made by you or made on your behalf.
Go for a thorough deliverance from the foundational bondage.
Be filled with the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues.
Attend regularly a Bible believing church.
Live a holy life.
Study the Bible regularly
Have a regular personal fellowship with the Lord.
Pray without ceasing.

If the Lord sets you free, you will be free indeed. Until you are born again and delivered, don’t get married yet. If the Lord reveals that your future partner or the man or woman you intend to talk to about marriage has this evil foundation, it is advisable to keep off or else, you will be in for troubles for life or for a very long time. It is not a law; it is an advice. Foundational issues in marriage are very difficult to resolve or tackle. The best way is to avoid them. Proverbs 27:12 says “A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.”

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Single’s World -July edition ’23

theolivebranchadmin — Sat, 29 Jul 2023 19:13:58 +0000

FOUNDATIONAL ISSUES IN MARRIAGE: SPOILT BRAT 2
In the June edition of our Singles’ World, I started discussing with you the foundational issues affecting marriages for you to avoid them. In the edition, I discussed getting married to a spoilt brat as a serious foundational issue in marriage which will be difficult to manage. I also shared with you one of the manifestations of a spoilt brat. In this edition, I will discuss some other features of spoilt brats. May the Lord open your hearts to receive the truth of God’s word in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Apart from selfishness, we will look at two other behavioural manifestations of a spoilt brat:
Disobedience and Naughtiness: Due to poor parenting, a spoilt brat will become indulgent. Consequently, she will become naughty and disobedient. Since nobody is going to beat her, she thus becomes a lord to herself. Now as a married woman in the house, you will have a real problem managing such a woman. She was always having her way when she was with her parents. Now, she will also want to have her way forgetting that she is now in a different environment. She has grown up over the years with a naughty personality which, ignorantly, she may see as a sign that she does not tolerate nonsense.

Ephesians 5:22 clarifies the role of wives in the family. She is to submit to her husband in the Lord. Where this is not observed, peace and harmony are not expected in such a family. Unfortunately, this is a common trend in most families today including, Christian homes. A spoilt brat, as a wife, will find it difficult to obey her husband. She will not take to any correction. She will always want to have her way, and she does not see anything wrong in her naughty actions. To her, nothing is wrong with her. No man wants to marry a woman that is not submissive. Otherwise, she will be in charge of the home. The problem with her is foundational; the way she was brought up. Any man that wants to change her should be ready for war.
Similarly, a naughty, self-willed and disobedient husband will never listen to his wife. He will always want to have his way. His wife will be frustrated. Even when his wife gives him advice, he may not have any regard for it. Such a man will cause trouble for his family. His naughtiness could endanger his family’s lives. When he goes out, he may not tell his wife where exactly he is going. He is always right in his sight. Such a man cannot be a good husband or father.

Attention Seeking: A spoilt brat is an attention seeker. When he was a child, he would create a scene to gain the attention of his parents, and because they did not want him to cry, they would always attend to him. So, he was used to that. When his parents had visitors, he would just feign a fall to catch the attention of his parents. The parents would leave the visitor and attend to him. If he was crying, the parents must attend to him. If he hit his head against the wall carelessly and lightly, he would cry aloud to gain the attention of his parents. Even though he had stopped crying when his parents were not at home, he would resume crying as soon as the parents returned home. Unfortunately, the parents would attend to him. This was how he was brought up from childhood to adulthood.

As a married woman in the house now, the man will be in trouble. Such a woman will always complain that her husband is not giving her sufficient attention. When she coughs, she wants her husband to say something. When she sneezes, she wants her husband to respond. When she yawns, she needs the husband’s response. She wants her husband to comment on her dress, her makeup, her hairdo, etc. If the husband is reading without talking to her sometimes, it is a problem. She will want her husband to respond to everything she says. She will just create a scene in the house to get everybody’s attention.

When she is lightly indisposed, she will want everybody around her. When the husband appears too busy, the husband does not love her. Such a woman will cry a lot over frivolous things in the house to gain the attention of the husband whom she expects to come to her and beg her. Such a woman will be difficult to please. She is spoilt. She forgets that she is no longer in her father’s house where they were giving her all the attention that she asked for.

The parents thought they were showing her affections whereas they were indulging her. After she had been spoilt now, she wants a husband to inherit the mess. Some men are attention seekers too, but it is more common with women. A disobedient and attention-seeking husband is better than a disobedient and attention-seeking wife. Generally, it is better to avoid both to enjoy your life. These foundational issues are difficult to manage. Forewarned is forearmed. The Lord will help you.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Till then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Single’s World – September ’22 Edition

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 30 Sep 2022 12:35:11 +0000

THOSE WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO MARRY
I am delighted to welcome you to the September edition of our Singles World for 2022. In this edition, I will discuss with you another category of demon-possessed people that you must not marry. The Lord will give you a discerning heart, and you will not be seduced by someone who is demon-possessed in the name of Jesus Christ.
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Don’t Marry Someone who is Possessed by Demons – 3
15. The spirit world is very deep and only the spiritually-minded ones can understand its operations. Just as I discussed earlier that there are people with witchcraft spirits in the church and outside the church of God today who are waiting expectantly for their future partners, and many of them are already married to innocent and perhaps gullible Christians, there are also many people in the world and inside the church who are possessed with emere spirit. Such people are called spirit children. If you know them by chance, please, run away from them. Don’t ever try to marry them or have any sexual relationship with them or else you may not recover from it. We will now examine the characteristics of those that have emere spirit, who are usually women:

 They are naturally beautiful, fair, attractive and seductive. That is why brothers fall into their hands. Their beauty is their ‘evangelism’ and seductive tool that makes them irresistible to men. God knows that beauty attracts and that is why Proverbs 31:30 says “beauty is vain.” The devil also knows that men like beautiful women; so he has anointed and enchanted many women with emere spirit to seduce, attract and capture men into his kingdom. Please, note that it is not a sin to marry beautiful women, and not all beautiful women have an emere spirit. In Genesis 24:16, the Bible says Rebekah was very beautiful. If she had emere spirit, the Bible would have said so. So Rebekah was not demon-possessed. Sarah, Abraham’s wife was beautiful (Gen. 12:11). Vashti was also beautiful (Esther 1:11). Esther was another beautiful woman (Esther 2:7).

None of these women had emere spirit or else, the Bible would have said so. So, God is the creator of beauty but the devil uses beauty as bait to capture men and destroy their lives. However, many girls and women with emere spirit are naturally beautiful. Of course, to deceive innocent brothers, you do have some sisters that are not beautiful, yet, they are loaded with emere spirit. In other words, some emere women are ugly. The devil is surely the author of confusion. Generally, the commonest emblem of emere is beauty. Delilah must have been very beautiful and attractive that Samson fell for her.

 You may find them sometimes talking alone; some other times they may be talking to their mates in the spiritual realm that is invisible to others. If an emere girl sits down with you, she will be discussing with you and at the same time communicating with her friends in the emere cult. Isn’t that scary? If you are married to her, you are married to weirdness. As she is talking to you, she is also talking to invisible beings. That is why we say an emere is a product of both the physical and the spiritual worlds. If you offend her as your wife, she can report you to her mates who will deal with you ruthlessly.

Don’t forget that it is the spiritual that controls the physical. When you are thinking she is sleeping, she may be attending an emergency meeting of the emere cult. It is said that even witches and wizards fear them. That is why they have no regard for anybody irrespective of age, status and position.

 You cannot offend emere and go scot-free; they are vindictive. They epitomise wickedness. They have the power to make their parents and husbands wretched. I am sure you don’t want that.

 They usually die young and also at the time that it will be most painful to their loved ones. An emere can die on her graduation day from the University, shortly after the completion of her National Service, on her wedding day, during child labour etc. depending on the covenants they made in the realm of the spirit. Some die in their 30’s, 40’s etc. Nothing will stop them from dying. Not your tears, their achievements, their money, their fame, or their beautiful home can stop them from dying because they are under some blood covenants to go at a particular age known only to them and to their master in the kingdom of darkness.

Once they have fulfilled their satanic ministry, they will go. Some of them are usually gifted and talented and when they go, they are greatly and painfully missed. Some of them can also be dull to waste the money and the resources of their parents. It is better to be childless than to have emere as children. If you marry emere as a wife, you will soon become a widower. She will leave you suddenly and painfully too either with or without children but surely with an agonising and stigmatised life. If you want to remarry, the first thing you will hear is, “we don’t know what killed his first wife.” Hmmm. Be careful, please. You are likely to be the first suspect.

How do you recognise them without falling into their hands?

• By praying fervently to God to reveal them to you. God can reveal them through dreams and visions and any other means. Also pray for the grace to believe God when they are revealed to you without any doubt.
• By the gift of discerning of spirits. Those who have this gift will recognise them.
• If they carelessly boast of their powers in your presence.
• Watch out for those who usually have evil dreams that always come to pass.
• Watch out for women who are beautiful, disrespectful, boastful and wicked. If you find all these vices in a woman, she is likely to be an emere or a witch. None of them is better. Note that not all beautiful women are emere. Not all disrespectful women are emere. Not all boastful women are emere and not all wicked women are emere.
When an emere is revealed to you, please, run away for your dear life no matter her persuasions and wiles. It is my prayer that you will not fall into the trap of emere, and you will not marry them as wives in the name of Jesus Christ.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. In case, you are not born again, please, surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Single’s world – June edition 22

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 24 Jun 2022 08:00:37 +0000

THOSE WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO MARRY
I welcome you again to the June edition of our Singles World for 2022. Here again, I will be discussing with you the twelfth characteristic of those you should not marry. May the Lord lead you and guide you into choosing right in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Don’t Marry Someone who is Frigid and Sexually Unresponsive.
12. Just as it will be precarious for you to marry an impotent man, to marry someone who is frigid and sexually unresponsive will also be calamitous. As I discussed with you earlier, sex was created by God for the benefit of the husband and his wife in a marriage relationship. Without it, marriage will be meaningless. In fact, one reason why God wants us to marry is to prevent us from falling into immorality. And for the singles that are burning, the Bible admonishes them to go and marry provided they are qualified and ready- 1 Corinthians 7:1-9. So the Bible recognises the place of sex in a marriage relationship. That is why husbands and wives are admonished not to deny one another of sex.

In the world today, there are people especially women that are frigid and sexually unresponsive. No matter how you try to seduce and arouse them, they will be cold and insensitive. That is indeed a serious issue. Whoever that is frigid and sexually impassive should keep off from marriage. Marriage without sex is like soup without salt or like salt that has lost its savour. Such a marriage has no value. Some of the characteristics of people that are frigid and sexually unresponsive include:
 They lack sexual desire and even if they show desire for it, it will be with a great effort (hyposexuality). Such women will be unable to achieve orgasm called orgasmic dysfunction or female orgasmic disorder (anorgasmia) during any sexual act. Consequently, they will not long for another sexual act again. It is like somebody who does not always have appetite for food and anytime you force her to eat, it is always a battle. She can even throw up or mess up the food. You can imagine what the person that prepared the food will feel.

So, a frigid woman lacks sexual desire. In fact, sexual act is a burden for her rather than a pleasurable act. Each time, she sees sex as a tool of oppression by the man rather than as a tool of love. A student who does not have any desire to study will fail. A Christian who does not have any desire to pray and read his Bible cannot grow spiritually. A patient who does not have a desire to take his medications as prescribed by his doctor is inviting death. Similarly, a married woman who does not have any desire for sex with her husband is inviting adultery and divorce into her home.

 Some women will experience pain during intercourse. Since they are not really interested in it, their unresponsiveness to sexual stimulation and arousal will cause them pain. When what you ought to be enjoying is giving you pains, the right thing to do is to call it quit. While that is satisfactory to the wife, it is displeasing to the husband. To such women, it is like eating while you are having a stomach ache. You cannot be crying and laughing at the same time. When women are in pains during sex, it is the final whistle.

 Frigid women don’t experience much sensation in their genital and erogenous areas no matter the depth and the duration of the foreplay. Hence, sex becomes a weight and an encumbrance for her.

 Lack of interest in sexual talks: Such women are usually not interested in any form of sexual talk.
Some of the causes of female sexual dysfunction include depression, history of rape, family history of sexual abuse and wife battery, stress, poor body image, relationship issues, trauma, hormonal and anatomical problems, untreated diseases, medications, hereditary and spiritual issues. If you want to marry a frigid woman, be expecting some of the following:
 A dreary and unexciting marriage
 A fruitless marriage
 An angry husband
 Troubles
 Infidelity and children born out of wedlock
 Divorce/Broken home
Now, how will you know that your fiancée is frigid and sexually unresponsive without trying to go to bed with her? Fornication is not the right way to detect a frigid and a sexually unresponsive woman. So, don’t ever try that way.
 First, you can pray sincerely and ask God to reveal the woman to you? If indeed she has this female sexual dysfunction, the Lord can reveal it to you and even her entire health condition.
 Second, you can discuss her sexual, medical and psychosocial history with her although she may not tell you the whole truth. The Holy Spirit will help you to discover the hidden truth.
 Third, although such women don’t like opening up to doctors about their sexual and mental conditions, an attempt should be made for her to see a qualified doctor for appropriate diagnosis and treatment. She can also see mental health professionals or sex therapists. Her hormonal analysis may require estrogen hormone therapy depending on the diagnosis.
 Fourth, if you are very sensitive too, you will discover that she is not interested in sexual talks each time you raise it with her. Also, some of his friends may tell you jokingly or indirectly. Each time you are close to her you will notice that she is terribly impassive sexually. You will feel like you are sitting with another man.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. In case, you are not born again, please, surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Marriage without sex is like soup without salt or like salt that has lost its savour. Such a marriage has no value.

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Single’s World – May’22 edition

theolivebranchadmin — Sat, 28 May 2022 05:31:07 +0000

THOSE WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO MARRY
You are welcome to the May edition of our Singles World for 2022. In this edition, I will be discussing the eleventh characteristic of those you should not marry. May the Lord guide and help you in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
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Don’t Marry An Impotent Man.
Sex was created by God for the benefit of the husband and his wife. Every individual is endowed with this sexual ability to perform his or her roles adequately in a marriage relationship. To those whom marriage is given, sex is given to them as one of the benefits of marriage, without which there will be no joy, progress, procreation or fulfilment in the home. However, not everybody can perform this sexual function in the home. Some natural eunuchs are not endowed with sexual abilities. Such sterile men are not qualified for marriage. In Matthew 19:12, Jesus said, “there are some eunuchs, which were born from their mother’s womb.” They are naturally sexually impotent. Some men are made impotent through demonic attacks. Some men also acquire impotence through promiscuous living.

You cannot marry an impotent man and expect the relationship to be fruitful and be blessed with children. If your fiancé is impotent, you should quit the relationship because it will end disastrously. Impotent men know themselves although they don’t want to be publicly recognised because of the shame and the stigma attached to it. Culturally, such men are devalued and ridiculed. In the past, such impotent men were used as guides for the king’s wives in the palace. Even if the king was not around, the wives were secured because the men amounted to nothing. There are many men in our world today who are impotent; they are sexually dead and unable to copulate. Some of them still want to get married. What for?

Sex is one of the pillars that hold marriage. Its absence will cause the marriage to crash. Some of the symptoms of men with erectile dysfunction include the following:
Lack of erection at all.
Weak erection or inability to maintain an erection.
Lack of sexual arousal.
Lack of libido.
Low sex drive.
Lack of interest in sex talks although some guys can pretend so that you will not suspect them.
Pre-ejaculation
Azoospermia: (No sperm count).
When an impotent man proposes marriage to you, it is quite difficult to know whether he is impotent or not because he will not disclose this to you. In case, the man tells you that he is impotent, you should say goodbye to him. Don’t let any strange love start developing in your heart for him. If you pity him and marry him with his impotence, nobody will pity you when you begin to burn and cry every day in your house. Don’t marry him by faith. Of course, some guys may want to chase you away to ‘test’ your love by telling you that they are impotent when they are not.
Now, how will you know that your fiancé is impotent sexually without going to bed with him? Fornication is not the right way to detect an impotent man. So, don’t ever try that way.
First, you can pray sincerely and ask God to reveal the man to you? If indeed he is impotent, the Lord can show him to you.
Second, you can discuss with him his sexual, medical and psychosocial history although he may not tell you the whole truth.
Third, let him see a medical doctor for erectile dysfunction diagnosis which may include psychological and neurologic tests among others. These tests will show clinically the medical condition of your fiancé. This is more reliable than asking him directly.
Fourth, if you are very sensitive too, some of his friends may tell you jokingly or indirectly. Again, watch it; some of his friends who want to marry you can defame him by telling you that he is an impotent man in order to snatch you away from him.
Marrying an impotent man will surely be a big embarrassment to both of you. Apart from the delay in having children, you will be burning sexually at home and you may be tempted to try it elsewhere which is forbidden by God. Besides, you will not be able to tell people the reason behind your delay in childbearing. For the man, it is a secret that must be kept. But for how long? You surely cannot bear that. Some couples have remained childless till old age. Couples who could not bear for long have parted. When the ‘man’ in a man is not working, such a man is empty. He cannot talk where men are because he is not a man. That is one of the major things that women are looking for in marriage. It is an open secret.
If you are impotent or you have erectile dysfunction, see your doctor for proper diagnosis and treatment. Don’t get married with this disability, and don’t get engaged to any sister without disclosing your health condition to her. Generally, whether you are impotent or not, if you are in any relationship, both of you should undergo all the required medical tests including the erectile dysfunction diagnosis prescribed by an experienced medical doctor in an accredited medical laboratory. This is to guide both of you and prevent you from entering into ceaseless marital problems that are avoidable.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. In case, you are not born again, please, surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Single’s world -April ’22 edition

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 29 Apr 2022 05:07:28 +0000

THOSE WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO MARRY
I welcome you again to the April edition of our Singles World for 2022. Here again, I will be discussing with you the tenth characteristic of those who are not qualified to marry. May the Lord guide and help you in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
10.
Don’t Marry Someone who has an Abnormal Powerful Sexual Drive
10. Sex in a marriage relationship is one of the blessings of marriage. It is designed by God for procreation and as an expression of love between the husband and his wife. In Genesis 4:1, the Bible says “And Adam knew Eve his wife and she conceived, and bare Cain.” For the blessings of procreation to come to pass, both the husband and his wife must know each other. Sex is an act of knowing your partner and deepening your love for each other. That is why Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:5 warns the husband and his wife not to defraud each other of this conjugal right.

Sex is a right in a marriage relationship but a sin and an abomination in a non-marriage relationship. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3, the Bible says “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification that ye should abstain from fornication.” Ephesians 5:3 also says “But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints.” For the unmarried, sex is a sin before God; it is reserved only for the married. In a marriage relationship, therefore, sex occupies an important part of a marriage relationship, without which, the marriage will crumble. Sex is one of the pillars that hold a marriage. If the pillar is weak, the marriage will be vulnerable to any attack. It is God’s way of cementing the marriage. Sex is a lubricant that keeps the bolts of marriage firm, safe and intact.

It is important, therefore, that we have the normal sexual drive to drive the marriage to a safe harbour because God created us with the ability to have self-control. When your sexual drive is abnormal, the ship of marriage may capsize. It is interesting to note that some people have abnormal powerful sexual drives also known as hypersexuality. What does this mean? Such men or women have an uncontrollable sexual impulses. They are dogs. Although this is common among men, there are some women too whose sexual drives are abnormal. Let us look at some of the characteristics of people with abnormal sexual drives:
A. Such people are never satisfied with sex no matter how often you allow them. Such men can do it with their wives every day; there are some men who don’t mind doing it twice daily. Can you imagine that? How many women can endure this? Some of these women who are victims constantly experience bruises and a lot of discomfort after each sexual act. Hardly can they walk straight without being noticed that something is wrong with them. Such women are often beaten by their husbands if they refuse their uncontrollable sexual overtures. This is a gross abuse of sex. If they are women, their husbands can never satisfy them. The more they do it, the more they will want to do it. Some husbands often run away from home to rest from such nymphomaniac women. Some husbands who want to try and please their wives so that they will not lose them to other men are being advised to use aphrodisiacs to empower them to satisfy their wives. Some of these men have abused the drugs to their destruction. To these people, whether they are men or women, sex is food. Sex is water. Sex is everything. Without it, they cannot live. That is abnormal. Such people are sex maniacs. They are crazy about sex.

B. Such men have no regard for their wives during their red days. They will clean them up and do it. When their wives tell them to wait till their monthly visitor goes away, they are looking for big trouble. Many women know the discomfort that they undergo during their red days, and even some men know this about their wives. Yet, they still want to sleep with them and add more to their pains because they are mad about sex.

C. If their wives are indisposed and it is impossible to ask for it, they switch over to other women around them. Such men have single girls, married and unmarried women that are servicing them since madam is indisposed. Even when madam is well, extra-marital affairs are normal with them. They do it with impunity and their wives are aware of their acts. Some of these wives cannot talk because they know they cannot meet the abnormal sexual desires of such husbands.

D. If the wife is pregnant, the man will keep doing it till after delivery. Some men sleep with their wives shortly after their deliveries. Can you imagine that? Such a man is an animal. He is not concerned about your condition before or after delivery.

E. Such men don’t want family control measures. They want to do it without any inhibition. In such a home, the wife can become pregnant when her baby is three months old. Think about that.

F. Such gynecomaniac men will sleep with your female house helps without having any compunction about it. You will need to take away your grown-up girls from such a senseless and sexually aggressive man or else the man will mess up with them and warn them never to tell anybody. If you are careless with your younger sister, the man will sleep with her.
People with this sexual abnormality are shameless and abusive. There are men who tie their wives down with ropes like goats in order to sleep with them. Some wives have divorced their husbands because of their excessive demands for sex. Some wives regularly sleep with their husbands’ younger brothers when their husbands cannot meet their sexual demands. Of course, some women do it for other reasons.
You cannot marry people having this problem or else:
A. You will be sexually abused regularly.
B. You will be your husband’s sex machine
C. You will be in pain regularly
D. Your husband will bring shame and disgrace to your family.
E. Both of you will be vulnerable to Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD).
F. Either of the partners may die suddenly
G. You will not enjoy the marriage
H. You will have unwanted babies
I. You will have babies born out of wedlock
J. Divorce or separation may be inevitable.
How do you know a brother or a sister that has this sexual abnormality? You don’t have to commit immorality to know him or her. The following tips will help you:
A. Pray and ask God to reveal every hidden thing about the brother or sister to you. It is easier to discover a brother than a sister because sisters can pretend about this.
B. By their fruits, you will know them- Matthew 7:20. If you are in courtship, he will want to sleep with you often.
C. He will like to talk about sexual matters most of the time you are together.
D. He/She will be full of lustful thoughts.
E. She will want to be with you always, hugging and cuddling you.
F. Her voice will always be seductive
G. The eyes will be full of adultery- 2 Peter 2:14.
H. If you cleverly look below his belt, his dick will always be erect each time you are together.
Don’t marry anyone with this abnormality if you want to live and enjoy your marriage. If you have this abnormality, give your life to Jesus Christ and accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. Then, go for a thorough deliverance. The Lord will set you free or else don’t marry. If you marry, you will be a nuisance to everybody and even to yourself because nobody can satisfy your sexual desires.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. In case, you are not born again, please, surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Those who are not qualified to marry – Jan 22 edition

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 28 Jan 2022 08:44:24 +0000

THOSE WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO MARRY
Compliments of the season to you! Welcome to the first edition of our Singles World for 2022. In this edition, I will be discussing with you one of the characteristics of those who are not qualified to marry. May the Lord stop us from falling into their hands in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
7.
Don’t Marry a Contentious Woman
A Contentious Woman: A contentious woman is quarrelsome, combative and aggressive. She has a fighting spirit; there is a longing in her to fight. She delights in causing trouble and also in drawing attention to herself. Proverbs 21:19 says “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” The Good News Translation says “Better to live out in the desert than with a nagging, complaining wife.” The Complete Jewish Bible says “It is better to live in the desert than with a nagging, irritable wife.” The Easy-to-Read Version says “It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quick-tempered wife who loves to argue.” The versions of the Bible cited further reveal the characteristics of a contentious wife. She is
nagging,
troublesome,
complaining,
cantankerous,
irritable,
bad-tempered,
argumentative
confrontational.
She does not have a gentle spirit. You want to live with a woman like this? It is deadly. When you live with a woman who likes trouble, you will never enjoy your life. When your wife is aggressive and combative, hypertension will be your companion. Such a woman
Will be difficult to please.
Will kill you with her daily complaints.
Will be domineering.
Will want to win all arguments.
Will be unpredictable.
Will bring trouble and argument out of every discussion.
Will be quick to hear and quick to fight.
Will be temperament.
She does not like an atmosphere of peace. If you offend her, she will talk about it always. Her heart is difficult to heal of any wound.
If you tell her that somebody was rude to you or assaulted you or told some lies against you, she will be warming up to go there and confront the person even if you say you have forgotten the matter. She will remind you every day and make you feel that you should have tackled the person right there. Let a teacher beat her son in school, she will be there swiftly to confront the teacher. The Bible says it is better for you to live alone in the desert than to marry a quarrelsome wife. So, life in the desert is better than living with a contentious woman. That is God’s solution. God knows that you cannot manage such a woman without sustaining very serious injuries.
God’s therapy here is prophylactic (preventive) and not therapeutic (curative). It is better for a man to be living inside the forest with wild beasts than for him to be living with a contentious wife in the house. How can living in the forest, with all its hardships, be better than living with a wife inside a house? How can living with animals in the forest be more comfortable for a man than living with a nagging and quarrelsome wife? God knows the best and so He has spoken by telling you to avoid marrying a contentious woman.
In Proverbs 25:24, the KJV of the Bible says “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” According to Proverbs 25:24 NIV, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” The New Living Translation says “It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.” The AMP version says “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than to share a house with a disagreeing, quarrelsome, and scolding woman.”

In all these versions of the Bible, the stand of God is that it is better for the man to be living in one corner of the roof of his house than to share a beautiful house with a quarrelsome wife. Divorce is not an option here but it is better to be alone and remain single than to live with a woman who will be a major hindrance to your wellbeing in life. For me, this is a case of being unequally yoke. It is better to be a servant who lives in one corner of the roof of the house than to live in a lovely and beautiful house with a nagging and troublesome wife. This is because according to Proverbs 27:15-16, GNT, “A nagging wife is like water going drip-drip-drip on a rainy day. How can you keep her quiet? Have you ever tried to stop the wind or ever tried to hold a handful of oil?” You cannot. The Easy-to-Read Version says, “A complaining wife is like water that never stops dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold oil in your hand.” Very impossible. According to Proverbs 27:15-16, New Living Translation, “A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.” If you can stop the wind or hold oil in your hand without dripping, then go ahead and marry a contentious and quarrelsome woman.

Please, note that there are also contentious men. Just as we have quarrelsome women, we also have quarrelsome men. Such contentious men fight easily and quickly too although the Bible tends to lay more emphasis on contentious women. Proverbs 26:21 says “As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a contentious man to kindle strife.” The Living Bible says “A quarrelsome man starts fights as easily as a match sets fire to paper.” In fact, a contentious man will succeed in turning his wife into a robot if she wants peace in the house. Such a wife may be living a dreadful life. In addition, she has to submit to the authority of the husband. Such a man will be a terrorist in the house. If you notice that your fiancé is troublesome and quarrelsome, please, leave him or else you may live a miserable life except you are exceptionally and unusually a patient, calm and gentle woman.

If your fiancée is contentious, please, move away from her if you want to live a peaceful and comfortable life. If you are already married to a contentious wife, go and start living in the corner of the roof of your house. No doubt! It is a serious challenge but the Lord will continue to help you. With patience, tolerance and understanding, you will manage the challenge. But for the unmarried, do not marry a contentious partner. Don’t go into the marriage on the grounds that you can cope, you may not survive it. Obedience is better than sacrifice. Finally, a quarrelsome man or woman should not marry.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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Those who are not qualified to marry 5- September Edition

theolivebranchadmin — Fri, 24 Sep 2021 21:45:20 +0000

Welcome to the September edition of our Singles World. In this edition, I will discuss with you again one of the characteristics of a difficult person who is not qualified to marry and whom you should not marry. May the Lord open your eyes to the truth of His words in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
4.
Don’t Marry a Difficult Person
They are excuse givers: A dictionary meaning of ‘excuse’ is “a false reason that you give to explain why you do something.” Difficult people always like to give excuses for their wrongs. It is usually difficult for them to accept that they are wrong and apologise. They are usually armed with excuses for their acts of omission or commission. For instance, a man who does not pay his rent or his child’s school fees because he has spent the money budgeted for it on some other things will not admit that. Rather, he will attribute this delay in the payment of the school fees to the delay in the payment of his monthly salary by government.

Also, a woman whose soup got burnt because she forgot it on the gas cooker may blame it on the sudden increase in the pressure of the gas or on her baby that distracted her attention instead of her forgetfulness to check the soup. Again, a man who arrives home late from the work place because he left his place of work late may excuse his lateness on heavy road traffic on the road whereas if he had left the office early he would have arrived home earlier. Simply because there was road traffic, he hides under that to cover up his lateness.

Again, a woman who wears a tight skirt and justifies it on the grounds that all other skirts are rough and she wants to appear neat to church whereas, there are other clothes that she could wear instead of the tight and offensive skirt or a woman who wears a top that exposes her chest and says that she wears it because she is sweating and she wants fresh air to blow on her.

A man is driving and chooses the rough road instead of the smooth one. When the wife asks him, he says the rough road is shorter to his house whereas the reason why he is not driving on the usual smooth road that he is used to is because he is avoiding a woman that he owes some money which his wife must not know about. This is a cover up! Can you imagine that! So, tacitly, such people are smart liars. Let’s look at some examples of excuse givers in the Bible:

In Genesis 3, the Lord asked Adam, “Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?” Apparently, Adam had disobeyed God by eating the forbidden fruit. Instead of admitting his fault, he said in verse 12,”the woman whom thou gavest to be with me she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.” Adam did not admit his error. She shifted the blame unto God and unto Eve. When God asked Eve in verse 13, Eve also said, “the serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.” Both Adam and Eve were excuse givers. Eve too blamed the serpent for her error. She did not admit her fault. Every husband is a potential Adam and every wife is a potential Eve.

Also, in Genesis 4, after Cain had killed his brother, Abel because his own sacrifice was not accepted by God, God asked him in verse 9, “Cain, where is Abel thy brother?” And Cain said “I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?” The Living Bible version says, “How should I know? Am I supposed to keep track of him wherever he goes?” “Am I my brother’s keeper” means that “do you expect me to know or monitor his movement all the time? He is a mature man; he is free to go to anywhere that he wants, and he will come back home whenever he likes. In fact, he may not even like it if he knows that I am monitoring him.”

It happens in the family setting. For instance, if your partner asks you, “Do you have an extra phone charger?” You have but you don’t want to give it to her and you say “I don’t even know where it is.” Or you say “it cannot work with your phone.” Or still I don’t even know if Tola has returned it because he took it last week” whereas it has been returned. These are excuses and some people are professional excuse givers. Again, God was angry with Cain that He cursed him just as God was angry with his parents, Adam and Eve who were excuse givers too and He cursed them. Excuse giving is very provocative.

You remember the parable of a man in Luke 14 who made a great supper and invited many people. In verse 18, the Bible says “And they all with one consent began to make excuse. The first said unto him, I have bought a piece of ground, and I must needs go and see it: I pray thee have me excused.” In verse 20 “And another said, I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come.” In verse 21, the Bible says “Then the master of the house being angry…” That is it! If you marry a man or woman who gives excuses for his/her errors, you will always be angry like this master. Of course, it was easy for the master to change the invitees and invite others which was what he did. But you cannot change your partner because he/she likes to give excuses.
Excusing giving is characteristic of difficult people, and you will always be angry. You want to live as an angry man or as an angry woman all your days? Run away from difficult people. Run away from excuse givers, and if you know you are a difficult person giving excuses when you should just admit your errors and apologise, don’t marry, please. Or else, you will continue to be a problematic spouse. Surely, marriage is not for you.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun

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