I’m Single and Worried?

As youths or adolescents  especially as a lady,  we get to a stage in our lives that we start feeling left out, the need for a man in our lives and all sorts of things. Well,  I won’t blame us; I think it’s normal to feel that way.  I got to a stage where i started feeling single and worried.

You just remember your age, and you’re like No o!  I’m getting old and you start getting worried unnecessarily. In fact,  your parents or people  will stylishly ask you , if there’s anyone in your life. Not in a way to annoy you but they just want to know, it’s understandable. 
Slowly, all these start to accumulate in your subconscious and you don’t know when you start acting it out.

You put up so much stress on yourself. 

I think I’m at that stage right now and it’s so funny,  frustrating and annoying at the same time. I am under some kind of pressure,  an unnecessary one. 
Social media is not even helping matters,  you see a lot especially all those Bella naija stories ..lol… and all.  How they met and blah blah down to the proposal ( too wonderful, I’m even smiling right now) pre-wedding pictures and all. You would even start stalking themself.  You now start thinking. God, when will my own come o?  Can this be my story?  You start imagining many things in your head, and you know what kills it most. The kind of people approaching you. Not what you want at all.  

Mehn, I’ve encountered a lot, just know that. But I’m grateful and I appreciate them for seeing a wife to be in me. It’s something really and a great thing too. (Appreciate that aspect of your life too).
Just seeing the experiences or different types of guys that approach me and my friends we are happy we dodged bullets, missiles and let’s say nuclear weapons 😂😂We laughed about it a lot.

It got to a point I(we) got discouraged, I said to myself that I can’t do this anymore.  I used to give God some part and take some part thinking  I could do it on my own. Lol, strategic positioning of some kind.

See, it’s God that gives Husbands, that gives wives . I surrendered every bit of my love life to God.  A deep surrender. I’ve coded it a ‘waiting diet’.  Just literally waiting on God.  Not even thinking of trying anything out on my own. I don’t want to be single and worried anymore. 

Let God do all!

Anxiety will come in but I’ve decided to tell God about all my worries and anxiety.  I will be sincere with you.  Worrying won’t do anything, just leave it to God. Don’t be desperate to just settle for anyone that comes around you. 
I’ve seen people and heard of wonderful stories of God answering their prayers. Dreams do come through. God knows what’s best for us. Yours can’t be different, it will be wonderful. Trust me. Wait patiently for your answered prayer.

If you are in this same stage  of being single and worried with me, I’m just going to give you some tips that I think can help you.

Tips

1)Take a chill pill! Relax !!Leave it all to God!!! 

2) Trust yourself. Don’t settle for less. Have good and reasonable standards . 

3) Discover your purpose,  know what you want to be.  Your purpose is embedded in your future husbands’ own. You’re a helpmeet and that’s the reason.  

4) Know that you’re worth the wait.  You are a priceless being and you will be valued by someone.

5) Don’t put pressure on yourself. Your time will come and God is never late He’s always on time. 

6) Tell God all your worries,  anxieties , ask Him to strengthen you, to give you patience, tell Him about the people that approach you. You can write them out to Him .

7) Pray for your future husband and prophesy good things into his life (I can make a different post on things to pray for in a man). There’s power in the tongue.

8) Write down what you want in your dream man and tell God all of this even to the littlest thing you desire. 

(I believe when you write things down, it makes it more concrete.  Hab 2:3). I keep a journal,  you can try that out.

9) Study Biblical examples like Esther and Ruth. Study their lives and apply it to your life.  Study  Proverbs 31 too . Read some good  books on relationships . ( I wrote about my study on Esther )

10) Pray for yourself that God should make you a wonderful woman,  a good helpmeet, a virtuous woman .

11) Serve God diligently, work for Him, grow  spiritually and just rest in Him. (Literally fall like a mango tree).

It’s in your waiting that God brings your heart desires that are more than what you want.  He delights in making you happy more than you want yourself to be – Psalm 37:4.

I’ve seen the period of waiting as a time to trust in God. It’s also a time to have faith and hope in God. He knows waiting on Him won’t be easy. So, He wants us to ask for strength-
Psalm 26:14, Psalm 31:24.

God loves you far too much to hand you something too early or too late. He knows when you’re ready for it. Trust!

You’re worth the wait. 

Estée

Check out my post on Journaling 🤗🤗

Check out the singles post in the Singles Section of this blog .  The making of a wife and other wonderful posts in the section.