DANGEROUS PEOPLE TO MARRY
Compliments of the season to you all! Welcome to the January 2023 edition of our Singles’ World. In my last discussion, I told you not to marry an unbeliever. I also tried to define who an unbeliever is. Here now, I will discuss with you why you should not marry an unbeliever. May you not walk deliberately in the paths of destruction and disobedience in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen
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Now that you know who an unbeliever is, you need to know why you should not marry an unbeliever. When God says you should not be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever or marry an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14), it is not primarily to enable you to make Heaven among other things. Largely, it is to save you from troubles and make you enjoy God’s blessings maximally. We will now look at the following reasons why you should not marry an unbeliever:
A good Christian who wants to make Heaven will not contemplate divorce no matter the storms his marriage is going through. Although, it is not always easy for such believers to bear such burdens, they will endure the challenges for the sake of Heaven. But the unbelievers have no problems divorcing their partners because they don’t have Heaven in view. It is only believers that have the fear of God that will want to obey the Word of God even in the difficult times.
Unbelievers don’t have the fear of God neither do they fear men; hence they have no respect for the Word of God. In the law courts today, divorce is on the rise, and many children have been rendered homeless. However, we do have some exceptions where some Christian marriages have crashed. It is most likely; one of the partners must have backslidden or compromised his or her faith. But generally, most good Christians will want to bear their marital challenges for their testimonies and also for the sake of Heaven.
Divorce in Christian homes is an insult to Christianity and to God. The effects of divorce on Christian homes and also on the church are devastating and irreparable. Not only are the children endangered, the spouses are psychologically traumatised, culturally stigmatised and financially impoverished. When you marry a good Christian, you may escape the scourge of divorce and enjoy your marriage fully by the grace of God.
Besides, a good Christian will try and endure marriage challenges because of the empowerment of the Holy Spirit. Christians who have the fruit of the Holy Spirit, as stated in Galatians 5:22, such as long suffering, patience, kindness, gentleness, self-control, love etc. see the need to endure their marital challenges rather than resorting to domestic violence and assault to tackle them. Reports on domestic violence, spousal abuse and spousal death are very common in society today. Provocations and infidelity have led to the death of many couples in society today. A society woman stabbed her husband recently when she discovered that her husband had impregnated another woman. Both the husband and the wife are unbelievers. Another Christian celebrity died because of her endless exposure to unbearable assault from her husband who was presumed to be a Christian; albeit a bad Christian.
A good Christian will not remarry in the event of infertility, barrenness and childlessness. Although this challenge can threaten the existence of any marriage. I know of some good Christians who have remained childless till old age without contemplating divorce or remarriage. Nobody prays for childlessness or any form disability that can impair the sustainability of any marriage. Such a challenge will be seen as a cross that should be carried as good disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ. Unbelievers cannot bear this because they don’t have Jesus Christ as their Lord.
Most unbelievers have the tendency to be irresponsible at home. You find them shirking in the discharge of their duties in the family. In most of those homes, such husbands don’t care about the payment of their children’s school fees. They don’t care about the health and the feeding of the family. Good Christian husbands, because of the fear of God, will be alive to their responsibilities at home. In some cases, they may not be able to meet all the needs of the family, but it will be clear that they are doing their best. If you marry an unbeliever, you may be the only one to shoulder all the family responsibilities. Although, we do have some unbelievers that are responsible, that is not a justification for you to marry them.
Unbelievers are given to alcoholism, smoking, partying and cultism whereas a very good Christian will not be associated with any these. This is why assault, domestic violence, sexual abuse are common in the homes of unbelievers. There are wives that smoke and drink? What do you expect from an unbeliever that is given to smoking and alcoholism? Such wives will be uncontrollable. And such husbands will be dangerous to live with.
A very good Christian will be Spirit-controlled, while an unbeliever will be demon-controlled. He or she will be under the influence of Mr Flesh. You cannot live with a man or woman that is Spirit-controlled, and you will not enjoy his or her company. But a man or woman that is dominated and governed by Mr Flesh will be a thorn in your flesh.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. In case, you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen
Pastor Jide Ajidahun
