Singles’ World June Edition ’25

The Contemporary Thought on Christian Marriage 3

Welcome to the June edition of the Singles’ World for 2025. In the last edition, I discussed with you the impact of modernist thoughts and secularism on Christian marriage. I discussed the movement by feminist activists to incite women to live independently and be assertive instead of allowing their husbands to treat them as subordinates in a marriage relationship whereas both of them are equal. I hinted that these are demonic teachings that are taught to erode the sacred Word of God and upturn the order of God in the home. The attention of the church is being called to this evil secularisation of the Word of God because it is already laying a siege against the Christian marriage.

In this edition, I will discuss another influence of modernism and secularism on Christian marriage. It is my prayer that you will not be swayed by these false teachers so that you can follow the path of godliness and righteousness.

Sex as Tool of Masculinity and Female Subjugation: Another modernist thought trending among feminist activists is that sex is a tool of masculinity for oppressing women. This perspective is rooted in a jaundiced and subjective mindset, rebelling against God’s Word and leading others astray. The Bible teaches that everything God created, including sex, is good (Genesis 1:31). God’s command to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28) necessitates sexual union between husbands and wives.

This feminist ideology implies that wives should have firm control over their bodies, submitting to sex only when they desire, defying the biblical principle that husbands and wives have authority over each other’s bodies (1 Corinthians 7:4). Such views can lead to tension and disharmony in Christian families. These malicious advocates presumptuously teach that the male sexual organ was created for oppressing women.

If these activists focused on men who abuse their wives, violate women’s primacy without consent, or engage in rape and molestation, their concerns would be understandable. Such men are deviants with morally bankrupt and depraved minds. However, their blanket statement about all men is misguided.

This feminist thought can create tension and disharmony in Christian families. If women view sex as a tool of oppression, they may:

1. Deny their husbands sex, leading to potential infidelity.

2. Reject marriage altogether, potentially leading to alternative lifestyles like lesbianism or living as “baby mamas.”

God created men and women with distinct roles, with men as initiators and women as helpmeets. The purpose of sex is to fulfill God’s mandate to be fruitful and multiply, not to oppress or subjugate women. Men and women were designed to work together in harmony, not in opposition.

We must reject this misguided ideology and uphold God’s design for marriage and sex. Men and women should work together in harmony, fulfilling God’s mandate and enjoying a healthy, loving relationship.

By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please do not forget to send me your comments and testimonies. If you are not born again, please surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Tomorrow may be too late. Until then, God bless you. Amen.

Pastor Jide Ajidahun