Hey guys!!! Today is the last day and last friday in March and we are back with this month’s edition of Single’s world. February’s edition was about The bedrock of an enduring marriage relationship and after laying a bedrock, we have to build on it. Please read, comment, share and of course subscribe to receive notifications when something new has been posted. Enjoy!
MY DESTINY. MY LIFE. MY RELATIONSHIP.
I am glad to know that you have been waiting for this month’s piece. Well, thank God. Here it comes. I trust that it will be of tremendous benefit to you all. Any enduring and sustainable legacy must be well prepared for or else it will be short lived. Our youths today rush into relationship without knowing what marriage is all about. Some go into marriage because they are now University graduates and what is next is marriage. Some because they are of age. Some because their age mates are already getting married. Some get married because of pressures from their parents and some because it is the vogue. None of this was the reason why God gave Adam a wife to marry.
God gave Adam Eve to marry to help him fulfill his destiny. Adam had existed in the Garden of Eden for a while, and God took notice that he needed support. God knew that Adam would not be able to complete the assignment He had given him; hence He provided him a helpmeet. Your marriage is to help you fulfill your destiny on earth. Marriage is to help you be what God has destined you to be. Marriage is to make your destiny assignment much easier, faster, pleasurable, impactful, rewarding and comforting. That is why the Bible says in Ecc. 4:9, “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.” Even the elementary teaching on the concept of division of labour underscores this.
Don’t venture into any relationship if you don’t have an idea of your destiny. Your destiny is your life. It is God’s purpose for your life. That is the reason for your existence in the first instance. That is why you are also saved. If you are not saved, you will not be able to do it in God’s own way. So, you will fail. I pray you will not fail in Jesus’ name. That is why God is investing on people so that they can be saved. Salvation will make it easier for them to fulfill their destiny. So, the major crucial decision after salvation is marriage. It is common to hear the man complaining that his wife is not supporting his ministry or career or business. We also have wives who complain that their husbands are not supporting their ministries or careers. That is what they should have settled before getting married.
You need to first of all identify your destination in life before looking for the partner who will accompany and support you. If you get married without knowing your destiny and vision for life, you are like a commercial vehicle at the motor park beckoning to commuters to enter without telling them the destination of the vehicle. Even the kidnappers’ vehicles have destinations although they may be deceitful, at least, the commuters are told somewhere. You are like a vehicle on the highway in the night without a light. It will end up in the ditch.
Your destiny will determine the type of partner you will marry. If you are called as a combatant in the army, you cannot marry a chicken-hearted wife. If you are called as an itinerant full time Evangelist, you cannot marry an outgoing woman or a traveller. Who will take care of your children? If you are called as a Pastor, you cannot marry a woman who has no passion for ministry work and who is reclusive and easily irritated. If you are called as an academic person, who is destined to be a Professor in future, you cannot marry a husband who dropped out of school for lack of intellectual competence. If you marry him, he is not likely to encourage you in that academic line. If you are called as a medical doctor, you cannot marry a petty trader or a woman who hawks paltry goods. She will continue to be an embarrassment to you.
You need a partner who fits into your call. Eve fitted perfectly into Adam’s call. You have no business having relationship if you have not identified your call and destination in life. When you start a relationship without first identifying your call, you may end up as a frustrated person. Your partner will likely guide you into the easiest way for him or her. One woman was called as a medical doctor, but the husband turned her to a teacher because he wanted her to be at home most of the time to prepare his food and then take care of the children. Will such a woman be fulfilled in life? No! Can such a woman be appointed a Minister for Health in her country? The husband has turned her to Minister for Food and Household Work. Where is your passion in life? What is your destiny? In the April edition, I will give you some Biblical examples to support my view. Till then stay blessed.
