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THE MAKING OF A WIFE
Welcome to my June flight as we cruise and feast together in this single’s discourse. I hope the previous editions were of tremendous blessings to you? My focus in this edition is on the making of a wife. Apologies to our men folk. I promise to get back to them later. Every sister wants to get married. It is the desire and heart cry of our sisters. Any delay or interruption is usually seen as a demonic attack. Unfortunately, not every sister knows the import of being a wife. And that is why there are lots of marital dysfunctions and disharmony in many homes today.
For those planning to get married, you need to know what it means to be a wife. Proverbs 18:22 says Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. The Bible does not say Whoso findeth a woman. Every wife is a woman, but not every woman is a wife. So, the man who will marry you is not sent by God to find a woman but to find a wife. As a sister, you need to ask yourself whether you are just a woman or a wife material. Are you womanly or wifely? Many men today are married to women and not to wives. They have therefore not found good things. One of the characteristics of a wife which you should have is the ability to cook good food for your husband.
It will surprise you that many married women today cannot cook good food. If you cannot cook very well, you are not a wife even though you are a woman. Before you start praying for a good husband, you must ensure that you have this quality. This is because God will direct your husband, if he too has prayed very well, to find you if you are wifely. Then you are a good thing. Such a man is favoured of God but if you are not wifely but wimpy, then you are a bad thing. The man who finds you is not favoured at all. What does cooking good food entail?
Ability of the wife to be able to cook delicious food all the time that will make your husband to salivate for more and that will make him forgive all your ‘sins.’
Ability to prepare food satisfactorily. When some women cook, it is either their rice is over cooked or it is under cooked. None of this is good food. Food should be cooked moderately. Their yam flour or semovita is always with lumps, and their soup is usually tasteless. When you eat their beans, be ready to crack sands along.
Knowledge of the suitable meals for the breakfast, lunch and dinner. Some married women don’t know that your lunch is a heavy meal while breakfast and dinner are usually very light. Her slogan should be that “Eat breakfast like a king; eat lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.”
Ability to prepare varieties of food and drinks or else there will be monotony of food in the house. For instance, the wife should be able to make the following out of the Beans in the house: Beans porridge, Akara balls, beans pudding (moinmoin) etc. She should be able to make the following out of the Rice that is in the house: White Rice, Rice and Beans, Jollof Rice, Fried Rice etc. She should be able to make the following out of the Yam that is in the house: Yam and stew, porridge, yam chips, pounded yam, yam flour etc. Variety is the spice of life. She should be able to spring surprises concerning the foods she serves at home. That is why she is called a homemaker.
Ability to prepare varieties of soup depending on the needs of your family and resources. You don’t need much money in most cases to prepare varieties. It is all about diligence and initiative.
Knowledge about the medicinal and nutritional values of food items that she serves her family.
Knowledge about balanced diet, healthy food and unhealthy food, foods with low glycemic index as against food with high glycemic index, foods for weight loss and foods for weight gain etc.
Knowledge about the food needs of your husband and children. Your husband may have a favourite food and soup.
Knowledge about varieties of fruit juices to make and when to serve the family especially before food. Taking fruit juice after food can lead to bloating and constipation.
Knowledge about how to make her family eat their foods as drugs rather than waiting for when they will be taking their drugs as foods.
Knowledge about the food her husband and children are allergic to and how to avoid them or mitigate the allergies. Some people are lactose intolerant. Some are allergic to some nuts, while some are allergic to sugar etc.
Knowledge about food-food interaction and food-drug interactions.
Knowledge about how to improvise in the time of lack. In the time of lack, a good wife should be able to improvise and still prepare good food for the family.
Knowledge about the right quantity and size of food to prepare without wasting it. Some women don’t know the quantity of rice to cook for a family of four. It is either they cook in excess or the food is inadequate.
Knowledge about good food preservation strategies to prevent wastage.
Knowledge about how to use the local as well as the foreign condiments and spices to enrich your food.
Knowledge about how to bake and prepare some snacks for the family.
Knowledge about the control of salt and palm oil in foods. Some married women don t know the measurement of salt in the food they cook or the sauce they prepare. It is either the food is always too salty which is dangerous to our health or the salt is not enough. A good wife will know how to use salt and palm oil/vegetable oil moderately paying attention the issue of cholesterol.
Knowledge about table etiquette. Some married women don’t know about how to set the table for the family to reflect the position of the cutleries, plate, wine, water and cups on the table. Lack of this knowledge will disgrace you when your husband has some very important visitors in the house.
Knowledge about the kitchen utensils to acquire and their utilization and maintenance. Some kitchen utensils will make your job easier, neater and faster. Such utensils include grater, microwave, pressure pots, grinder, pounder, mixer, pestle and mortar, set of kitchen knives, etc.
One of the things a man needs in the home is good food. If he does not have sex with his wife for a month, he will not die, but if he does not eat for a month, he may die. Good food will make your husband to be endeared to you the more. Good and delicious food goes into the heart of man. That is why the Bible says in Proverbs 31:28 “Her children arise up, and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praiseth her.” Good food will make your husband long to be home. Bad food may take him to another woman. That is why some men go to restaurants and local buka. Such places if frequently visited may expose them to immorality and even untimely death in the hands of some devilish people.
Cookery is an art, and it is work. It takes diligence, patience and interest to be a good cook. And if you are not a good cook, you cannot be a good wife. Some women can only cook noodles and nothing more. Cooking only noodles will continue to make your husband moody. Some want to depend on house helps to help them cook. I pity you. Such women are not Wives but Wi-Fi. If you are not a good cook, develop yourself now while you are not yet married. Go to catering and cookery schools. Go online and learn about cookery if you want to be a good wife. Men are like sheep. They will go wherever they find greener pastures. Make your pastures green, and your husband will stay with you. Develop yourself NOW. Remember Olobe lo loko (A good cook owns the husband). See you next month by the grace of God. Cheers!
Pastor Jide Ajidahun.
