THE QUESTIONS SINGLES ASK 3
Welcome to the March edition of the Single’s World. I will continue from where I stopped last month. I want to answer more of the questions that our singles ask. The Holy Spirit will provide us the right answers in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Question: What if you are in a relationship with a guy and he later told you that the wives of the first sons in his family always die. Is that enough reason to break up with him since he is the first son?
Answer: First, do your own private investigation to confirm what he has said to be sure that he is not trying to create fear into your heart so that you can run away. Find out if he is not lusting after another sister. It is one of the tactics of men if they don’t want to come out and break up the relationship especially if the sisters have not really offended them. It is a clever way of breaking up a relationship. However, if you discover that what he said is true, you then have two options:
A. Continue the relationship with him if God has really led you to marry him provided both of you are genuinely born again with the fire of the Holy Ghost.
B. Continue the relationship with him if both of you are holy, and your prayer lives are very hot.
C. Continue the relationship with him if both of you are ready for spiritual warfare; a life of regular prayers and fasting and vigils.
D. Continue the relationship with him if he is not sending you away after you have shown your readiness to continue with him despite the information.
E. Continue the relationship if both of you are ready to undergo thorough deliverance such that the curse upon his family lineage is destroyed by the anointing of the Holy Ghost.
F. Continue the relationship if your faith and not your stubbornness is strong enough to withstand the impending challenge.
If you are not ready for all these, get out of the relationship and trust God for another fiancé for your life. Proverbs 27:12 says, “a prudent man forseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on, and are punished.” If you don’t have all these requirements, don’t marry the brother, please. Remember, if you marry him and die, he will marry another one maybe before that time he would have been delivered from the ancestral curse in his family but you would have been sacrificed.
Running away is not an act of cowardice. It is the path of wisdom. The angel of God appeared to Joseph in a dream and said in Matthew 2:13, “saying, arise, and take the young child and his mother, and flee into Egypt, and be thou there until I bring thee word: for Herod will seek the young child to destroy him.” That was God asking Joseph to run to Egypt and hide Jesus away from Herod. He actually asked them to flee. Sometimes, you need to flee from some situations. God has all the powers to keep and protect Jesus and his parents in Israel. He could even kill Herod if He wanted to save Jesus, but He chose the path of fleeing. Perhaps to teach us the need to flee when necessary? Life is too precious to gamble with. I John5:18b says “But he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not.” You do not sin, if you choose to flee. That may just be one confirmation that you are not meant for each other.
Question: My dad is against my relationship because the lady is not born again. He wants me to marry his pastor’s daughter but the girl is too demanding. She is always asking and requesting for my assets. My mum asked me to follow my heart and marry someone who will make me happy. What should I do?
Answer: Your daddy is right by telling you not to marry the lady that is not born again. The Bible warns you against getting married to an unbeliever. II Corinthians 6:14 says “Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? The Message Bible says. “Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple?” So, you cannot be in marriage partnership with an unbeliever. It is war, and it is also against the word of God. So, don’t marry an unbeliever.
However, your daddy is not right by asking you or insisting that you should marry his pastor’s daughter who is too demanding even though she claims to be born again. If you marry her, she will be a burden on your neck. It will be difficult for you to satisfy her. Let your father know this aspect of the girl’s life. Politely, tell your father you don’t love her.
Your mum has given you a wise counsel by asking you to follow your heart and someone who will make you happy. In addition to your mummy’s counsel, take time to pray and seek God’s guidance on the right wife for you. Thank God you quickly observed that the girl is not for you. That is wisdom and discernment. Prayerfully, marry a born again sister that will make you happy. The Lord will help you.
God willing, we will continue from here next month. Meanwhile, I will be expecting your comments. Till then, God bless.
Pastor Jide Ajidahun.
