I am delighted to welcome you to the August edition of our singles world. In this edition, I will conclude the lies that young people of today believe before going into marriage. May the Lord deliver us from lies and deceptions in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Question: What are the lies that young people of today believe before going into marriage?
Answer: One of them is:
G. That there is no marriage in Heaven: Many people hide under this statement to write off marriage. The root of this statement is in St. Luke 20:34-35 when Jesus told the Sadducees and said “And Jesus answering said unto them, the children of this world marry, and are given in marriage but they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage.” Here, Jesus was addressing the Sadducees who did not believe in the resurrection of the dead. To them, when a man is dead, he is dead. There is no future hope for the dead. Jesus compares the two worlds here when he said, “the children of this world marry.” This world refers to this present age where everybody, both Christians and non-Christians, marry. As long as we live on this earth, we will continue to marry except of course you are not called to marry.
So, Jesus said, children who live here on this earth that is in this world marry. This present world is for us to marry and enjoy our marriages. Jesus did not condemn or forbid men from getting married here because it has no relevance in Heaven. But Jesus also talked about that world, which is the new Heaven. We will all have different bodies that are different from our present bodies in this world. That body is not for marriage. Those who make that world do not need marriage for they are equal unto the angels. Just as we go to school and seek for jobs in this present world, in that world, we will not need to go to school or ride cars or look for jobs etc.
Jesus was not in any way saying marriage had no place before God in Heaven. Some folks who are either frustrated with their marriages or they are simply irresponsible hide under this Scripture to behave nonchalantly and irresponsibly to their spouses and children. They wonder why they should continue to invest into their marriages and bother themselves much with marital issues when in Heaven there is no mansion for Mr. and Mrs… and their children. Again, since on the judgement day in Heaven, everyone and not every family is going to give the account of his stewardship, these people wonder why they should be labouring on an earthly marriage that is not recognized in Heaven.
After all, Jesus said labour not for the food that perisheth. If marriage will perish with this world, why then should I be concerned with it? Paul writing to the Colossians said set your affections on the things that are above. Since marriage is earthly, mundane and terrestrial and not heavenly and celestial, there is therefore no need to set any affection on it but to focus on Heavenly things. This erroneous belief makes some spouses not to be committed and dedicated to their marriages.
Men who share this view are not usually good husbands. Such men are grossly irresponsible. They will not pay the school fees of their children either will they bother whether there is food in the house or not. They barely have time to spend with their families; they are more comfortable with the companies of their friends outside. If such men are ministers of God, they will be married to their ministries at the detriment of their marriages. Their wives will never enjoy their marriages and their children may never have that fatherly touch.
Similarly, women who share this view will be over spiritual that they will not have time for their husbands. Sex to them will be seen as sinful as discussed in the July edition. They will starve their husbands of sex and spend more time in spiritual exercises like praying, fasting and meditation, which in most cases, will make them stay alone. Alone with God is their mantra. That Mount Zion Film titled Busy but Guilty says it all. Some of them may also not have time for their children. They can live and die inside the church. Their pastors will like them because they are always available for God’s ‘service.’
And if such women have ministerial callings, they will abandon their husbands to start their ministries whether or not the husbands are in support. The ministry to such women is more important than their homes. They believe they will give the account of their ministerial assignments to God rather than the account of their marriages which they believe will end here on the earth. Maybe that is why today we see many women standing alone without their husbands in the ministry.
While it is true that there is no marriage in Heaven, those who are married should, therefore, not abandon their earthly conjugal responsibilities. There are no university degrees in Heaven, yet people still pursue these on earth diligently. If you abandon your responsibilities as a student, you will fail. There is no politics in Heaven, yet people can die because of politics on earth. If you abandon your electoral and political responsibilities, you cannot go far in politics. You can go to hell, if you are fraudulent in obtaining your degrees on earth and you fail to repent. You can go to hell if you are a wicked politician and you refuse to repent. Your work on earth can determine where you will spend eternity. If you are an unfaithful husband or a treacherous wife, you will give account in heaven.
In Matthew 19:6, Jesus said “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” If you put asunder what God has joined together, you cannot go unpunished. Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” If you defile your marriage bed with immorality, you will be judged. Your activities in your marriage on earth are being recorded in heaven. So, heaven is concerned about the life you live in all areas on earth. If God is not concerned about your marital responsibilities, He will not bother Himself asking the husband to love His wife and asking the wife to be submissive to her husband: Ephesians 5:22-25. If marriage means nothing to God, He will not be asking the children to obey their parents in Ephesians 6:1.
If your attitude on earth can determine your place in eternity, it is then reasonable to behave well and perform all your earthly responsibilities faithfully. If on the account that there is no marriage in Heaven you are not committed to it, then, don’t get married. And if you get married, be faithful to your oaths of marriage or else you are worse than an infidel. There is no marriage in heaven, but you are enjoying the heaven in your marriage and you are not committed to it. This is not right!
Please, don’t be deceived.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and your testimonies. Till then, stay safe and God bless.
Pastor Jide Ajidahun.
Prayers
Every embargo that the kingdom of darkness has placed upon your marriage, I command it to be lifted in the name of Jesus Christ. I command every barrier that the enemies have put upon your marital life and relationships to be dissolved by fire in the name of Jesus. I remove every hindrance placed on your way to marital fulfilment in the name of Jesus Christ. I remove every limitation that the enemies have placed upon your marital life in the name of Jesus Christ. Every demonic cloud that is standing against your marital fulfilment be removed in the name of Jesus Christ. Every ancient cloud that is covering your glory and preventing it from breaking forth be removed now in the name of Jesus Christ. As the stone of the Jews could not hinder Jesus Christ from rising from the grave and appearing in Galilee to His disciples, no power of darkness will succeed in hindering you from getting married to your destined spouse in the name of Jesus Christ. I command your marital life to receive supernatural breakthrough. I decree in the name of Jesus Christ that is above every other name, you will be married joyfully. You will be fulfilled. Today, I connect you to your destined spouse and it shall be permanent in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen and Amen.
