THOSE WHO ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO MARRY
I welcome you again to the April edition of our Singles World for 2022. Here again, I will be discussing with you the tenth characteristic of those who are not qualified to marry. May the Lord guide and help you in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
10.
Don’t Marry Someone who has an Abnormal Powerful Sexual Drive
10. Sex in a marriage relationship is one of the blessings of marriage. It is designed by God for procreation and as an expression of love between the husband and his wife. In Genesis 4:1, the Bible says “And Adam knew Eve his wife and she conceived, and bare Cain.” For the blessings of procreation to come to pass, both the husband and his wife must know each other. Sex is an act of knowing your partner and deepening your love for each other. That is why Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:5 warns the husband and his wife not to defraud each other of this conjugal right.
Sex is a right in a marriage relationship but a sin and an abomination in a non-marriage relationship. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3, the Bible says “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification that ye should abstain from fornication.” Ephesians 5:3 also says “But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints.” For the unmarried, sex is a sin before God; it is reserved only for the married. In a marriage relationship, therefore, sex occupies an important part of a marriage relationship, without which, the marriage will crumble. Sex is one of the pillars that hold a marriage. If the pillar is weak, the marriage will be vulnerable to any attack. It is God’s way of cementing the marriage. Sex is a lubricant that keeps the bolts of marriage firm, safe and intact.
It is important, therefore, that we have the normal sexual drive to drive the marriage to a safe harbour because God created us with the ability to have self-control. When your sexual drive is abnormal, the ship of marriage may capsize. It is interesting to note that some people have abnormal powerful sexual drives also known as hypersexuality. What does this mean? Such men or women have an uncontrollable sexual impulses. They are dogs. Although this is common among men, there are some women too whose sexual drives are abnormal. Let us look at some of the characteristics of people with abnormal sexual drives:
A. Such people are never satisfied with sex no matter how often you allow them. Such men can do it with their wives every day; there are some men who don’t mind doing it twice daily. Can you imagine that? How many women can endure this? Some of these women who are victims constantly experience bruises and a lot of discomfort after each sexual act. Hardly can they walk straight without being noticed that something is wrong with them. Such women are often beaten by their husbands if they refuse their uncontrollable sexual overtures. This is a gross abuse of sex. If they are women, their husbands can never satisfy them. The more they do it, the more they will want to do it. Some husbands often run away from home to rest from such nymphomaniac women. Some husbands who want to try and please their wives so that they will not lose them to other men are being advised to use aphrodisiacs to empower them to satisfy their wives. Some of these men have abused the drugs to their destruction. To these people, whether they are men or women, sex is food. Sex is water. Sex is everything. Without it, they cannot live. That is abnormal. Such people are sex maniacs. They are crazy about sex.
B. Such men have no regard for their wives during their red days. They will clean them up and do it. When their wives tell them to wait till their monthly visitor goes away, they are looking for big trouble. Many women know the discomfort that they undergo during their red days, and even some men know this about their wives. Yet, they still want to sleep with them and add more to their pains because they are mad about sex.
C. If their wives are indisposed and it is impossible to ask for it, they switch over to other women around them. Such men have single girls, married and unmarried women that are servicing them since madam is indisposed. Even when madam is well, extra-marital affairs are normal with them. They do it with impunity and their wives are aware of their acts. Some of these wives cannot talk because they know they cannot meet the abnormal sexual desires of such husbands.
D. If the wife is pregnant, the man will keep doing it till after delivery. Some men sleep with their wives shortly after their deliveries. Can you imagine that? Such a man is an animal. He is not concerned about your condition before or after delivery.
E. Such men don’t want family control measures. They want to do it without any inhibition. In such a home, the wife can become pregnant when her baby is three months old. Think about that.
F. Such gynecomaniac men will sleep with your female house helps without having any compunction about it. You will need to take away your grown-up girls from such a senseless and sexually aggressive man or else the man will mess up with them and warn them never to tell anybody. If you are careless with your younger sister, the man will sleep with her.
People with this sexual abnormality are shameless and abusive. There are men who tie their wives down with ropes like goats in order to sleep with them. Some wives have divorced their husbands because of their excessive demands for sex. Some wives regularly sleep with their husbands’ younger brothers when their husbands cannot meet their sexual demands. Of course, some women do it for other reasons.
You cannot marry people having this problem or else:
A. You will be sexually abused regularly.
B. You will be your husband’s sex machine
C. You will be in pain regularly
D. Your husband will bring shame and disgrace to your family.
E. Both of you will be vulnerable to Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD).
F. Either of the partners may die suddenly
G. You will not enjoy the marriage
H. You will have unwanted babies
I. You will have babies born out of wedlock
J. Divorce or separation may be inevitable.
How do you know a brother or a sister that has this sexual abnormality? You don’t have to commit immorality to know him or her. The following tips will help you:
A. Pray and ask God to reveal every hidden thing about the brother or sister to you. It is easier to discover a brother than a sister because sisters can pretend about this.
B. By their fruits, you will know them- Matthew 7:20. If you are in courtship, he will want to sleep with you often.
C. He will like to talk about sexual matters most of the time you are together.
D. He/She will be full of lustful thoughts.
E. She will want to be with you always, hugging and cuddling you.
F. Her voice will always be seductive
G. The eyes will be full of adultery- 2 Peter 2:14.
H. If you cleverly look below his belt, his dick will always be erect each time you are together.
Don’t marry anyone with this abnormality if you want to live and enjoy your marriage. If you have this abnormality, give your life to Jesus Christ and accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. Then, go for a thorough deliverance. The Lord will set you free or else don’t marry. If you marry, you will be a nuisance to everybody and even to yourself because nobody can satisfy your sexual desires.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments and testimonies. In case, you are not born again, please, surrender your life to Jesus Christ today. Till then, stay safe and God bless you. Amen.
Pastor Jide Ajidahun