Welcome to the July edition of our singles world. In this edition, we will continue with the lies that young people of today believe before going into marriage. May the Lord enlighten our hearts and purge us from all forms of human and demonic lies and deceptions in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Question: What are the lies that young people of today believe before going into marriage?
Answer: One of them is:
F. That sex is dirty and it’s only allowed in marriage for procreation alone: Many young people today have been brainwashed and deceived into believing that sex is dirty, unclean, sinful and unrighteous and that it is only allowed in a marriage relationship for procreation alone. Can you imagine that! Even some adults in the church today, especially our over spiritual women, see sex as a burden and as a great encumbrance in marriage. Such women starve their husbands of sex and punish them endlessly contrary to the Scriptures.
Granted that sex is one of the instruments being used by the devil and the host of darkness to embarrass and pollute the church and even the entire world today without giving respect to anybody including the anointed men and women in collars and ecclesiastical robes, to write off sex completely is like throwing away the baby with the bath water. Young people who believe this lie will have marriage problems and their spouses will be exposed to extramarital sex.
Permit me to say that those who are prone to this error are virgins and in some cases victims of rape although the latter will likely hate sex and men generally. Those who keep themselves and marry as virgins on the grounds that sex is from the devil and therefore it is for procreation alone in marriage are mostly guilty of this. Such sisters hardly allow their husbands to kiss or hug them. Sex to them is for making babies. From God’s standpoint, and as shown very unambiguously in the Bible, sex is dirty, unclean and improper in two ways.
First, sex between two unmarried persons, which is called fornication, is condemned by the Bible. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 says “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification that ye should abstain from fornication.” 1 Corinthians 10:8 says “Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand.” 1 Corinthian 6:18 says “Flee fornication…” These are just some of the Scriptures that condemn fornication. So, as singles, fornication is evil and unclean. It is forbidden for you.
Second, extramarital sex, that is sex between a married person and another person other than his/her spouse is called adultery. It is also forbidden. Exodus 20:14 says “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” Deuteronomy 5:18 says “Neither shalt thou commit adultery.” Romans 13:9 says “For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery.” Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremonger and adulteress God will judge.” If a married man or woman has sex with another person other than his/her partner at home, he/she has committed adultery. His/her marriage bed has been defiled. God will surely judge all adulterers and adulteresses. So, sex is forbidden for the singles before proper and Biblical marriage and sex outside marriage is forbidden for the married.
Now let’s come to the real issue. If you are properly and legally married as husband and wife, sex between you and your husband is clean, legal, moral and Biblical. Sex was created by God. The devil did not create sex. The devil has only come to pervert it so that humans can begin to give themselves to lasciviousness and sexual immorality without any restraint. Everything that God created was good including sex- Genesis 1:31. God created it for husbands and wives.
In Genesis 2:24, the Bible says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” It is sexual intimacy that actually makes the husband and his wife to become one flesh. Genesis 2:24. The MSG says “Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh.” From embrace to sexual union. The sexual union between the husband and his wife is also for enjoyment. Don’t forget here that the Bible says the cleaving and becoming one flesh is between the husband and his wife and not between one boyfriend and his girlfriend. It is not between two singles.
In Genesis 4:1, the Bible says “And Adam knew Eve his wife and conceived, and bare Cain…” Here, without sex between Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel would not have been born. In Genesis 4:17, the Bible says “And Cain knew his wife; and she conceived, and bare Enoch…” Here, sex served the procreation purpose as stated in Genesis 1:27-28, but sex is not just for having children. We will see that shortly.
In Deuteronomy 24:5, the Bible says “A newly married man is not to be conscripted into the army nor given any other special responsibilities; for a year he shall be free to be at home; happy with his wife.” (Living Bible Version). A newly married man in the Old Testament was to stay at home for one year doing what? Making his wife happy? How? By singing for her? No! By running round the house everyday together? Making babies? God wanted the man to stay at home with his newly married wife making her happy.
One of the ways of doing this is through sexual union. You think they will just be playing indoor games for one year without frequent sex? No! That one year is for doing everything that can make her happy including sex. That one year, both the man and his wife would have mastered the tricks and the strategies of sexual fulfilment. Here, God wanted the couple to enjoy sex to the fullest and not just for procreation. This is still the purpose of God for couples today.
Let us see what Solomon, the wisest man on earth, said in
Proverbs 5:18-19. (KJV)
Verse 18: “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Verse 19: Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Proverbs 5:18-19 (Living Bible)
Verse 18: “Let your manhood be a blessing; rejoice in the wife of your youth.
Proverbs 5:18-19 (MSG)
Verse 18: “Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose-don’t ever quit taking delight in her body.”
These Scriptures undergird the place of romance and sexual intimacy between the husband and his wife. Look at the highlighted expressions again! The wife is for the enjoyment of the husband and the husband is for the enjoyment of the wife. If the husband’s manhood must be a blessing to the wife, the wife’s womanhood must also be a blessing to her husband. So, sex is not just for procreation, it is for the enjoyment of the husband and his wife. There is nothing unclean about it provided it excludes oral sex, masturbation, fellatio and all other forms of sexual abnormalities.
The only time that God allows the husband and his wife to stay away from sex is if they want to pray and fast. In this case love, understanding and mutuality must rule rather than self. 1 Corinthians 7:5 says “Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting-but only for such times.” (MSG). This means that sex should go on between the husband and his wife except if they want to give themselves to prayer and fasting. Sex should be one of the hottest activities going on in the home between the husband and his wife all things being equal. It is perfectly in line with the Scriptures. There is nothing dirty and unclean about it.
Young wives, who run away from kissing, hugging and sex from their husbands because of this erroneous teaching, should return to the right path. The unmarried must shun this error. Sex in marriage has a lot of physical, emotional, psychological and medical values which if neglected can ruin the home and ground it to a halt and if tapped can make your home heaven on earth. The place of sex in marriage cannot be easily overempahsised.
Please, don’t be deceived.
By the grace of God, we will continue from here next month. Please, don’t forget to send me your comments. Till then, stay safe and God bless.
Pastor Jide Ajidahun.
Prayers
I disconnect you from every evil flow of marital problems into your life. I stop the flow of marital delay, marital instability, confusion, broken engagement, divorce, barrenness, polygamy and every evil act running into your life in the name of Jesus Christ. I bind every demonic power attracting and enticing you to the wrong partner and I paralyse every agent of darkness hindering you from being engaged to your destined partner in the name of Jesus Christ. Every power of darkness that is presenting your preordained partner as your enemy and seducing you into marrying your enemy be consumed by fire in the name of Jesus Christ. I remove every wedge and block that the enemies have put in between you and your destined partner in the name of Jesus Christ. I silence every evil altar speaking evil into your life in the name of Jesus Christ. I dismantle every demonic establishment in your marital life and destiny. I overthrow the kingdom of darkness and the kingdom of evil men hindering your marital fulfilment. The Lord shall perfect everything that concerns your relationship and marital life and He will fill your mouth with joy unspeakable in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen and Amen.
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