If you pray and you have confirmations from God with evidence in your daily relationship with her that there is something demonic in your relationship with your wife, you can prayerfully ask her with wisdom. If she denies it, pray it off. If you see evidence in your relationship that there is something demonic, take it up as a prayer warrior and destroy any demonic foundation on which your marriage was planted. If you don’t have any confirmation from God, and there is no evidence that you were charmed by her, you may just dismiss the revelation.
However, both of you should go for deliverance prayers, and the God of heaven will answer your prayers just in case there is something hidden from both of you. On the other hand, if she confesses and repents, still go for deliverance prayers and let her renounce whatever she had done that is having evil effects on your marriage. Don’t ever contemplate divorce because it is not in the Bible on this ground. Matt. 19:9 says, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Forgive her, and do not give place to the devil to scatter your marriage. The Holy Ghost charm will replace the devil’s charm in your home in the name of Jesus Christ.
Question: Is it Biblical for a man to divorce his wife since the marriage was based on deceit.
Answer: I guess you mean if your wife deceived you into marrying her, and you only realized the truth after marriage. You want to know whether you can divorce her. Let us give practical examples of deceit here:
A. If she lied to you that she was a virgin, and you later discovered she wasn’t.
B. If she lied to you that she was a Christian and you later discovered that she was an unbeliever.
C. If she told you before that everything was well with her reproductive system and that she was a decent person but you later discovered that she has no womb due to her several abortions of the past.
D. If she told you that she never had a baby before only to discover that she had one when was in the secondary school.
We can go on and on. Does the Bible recommend divorce to tackle this situation? No!
If you are in 300 Level in the university, and the university discovers that you came in with a fake Senior Secondary School Certificate result in your 100 Level, but the university decides to forgive you, will you insist that the university should expel you?
Or if your wife charmed you with good luck, and the charm helped you to become a Chief Executive Officer of a big Oil and Gas Company with international offices in Canada, UK and US, will you divorce her after discovering that it was your wife who charmed you with good luck? Will you ask the company to demote and sack you because of this? No, you won’t! I am sure; you will simply confess your sins to God and ask God to forgive you and your wife, while you continue to enjoy your juicy job.
If your wife discovers that you are impotent after marriage which you never told her, will you be happy if she is threatening to go away? I am sure you will be begging her to stay that you did not want to hurt her because of the love you have for her, and that was why you did not tell her then. It is the same thing. If your wife deceived you, and you want to divorce her, how about the children of the marriage? Children of deceit? Will you also divorce them? Granted that it is painful, divorce is not the best option, and it is not Biblical.
Laban deceived Jacob by giving him Leah instead of Rachael in Genesis 29:21-28. Jacob did not divorce Leah because of that. Jacob obtained the blessing meant for Esau by deceit with the connivance of his mother, Rebekah. Yet, Isaac did not disown Jacob for deceiving him either did he divorce Rebekah his wife for deceiving him. You can read this account in Genesis 27.
I know of a father whose son deceived him that he was studying Medicine in a university for six years whereas he was not a student in any university at all. Both parents laboured on him believing that their son would soon be a medical doctor. Alas! It was a sham! It was painful for the parents, yet they did not ‘divorce him.” Look at the story of the Prodigal son. He obtained mercy at the end.
Our lives should be governed by the Word of God and not necessarily by the societal laws which may not always be in line with the Word of God. And when the societal laws run conflict with the Word of God, we obey the Word of God. Peter said in Acts 5:29, “We ought to obey God rather than men.” The law may dissolve such a relationship, but the Bible says you cannot. Matt. 19:9 says, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Matt; 19:6 says, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” You can only divorce on the ground of adultery or infidelity, if you choose to, and not on the ground of deceit as insinuated by some men of God. Do you know how many times you have deceived and lied to God and to men? If God decides to divorce you today on this ground, will you survive it?
I Thessalonians 5:21 says “Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.” It is your duty to pray very well and prove that this woman you are about to marry is good for you. You are asked to prove her. If you pray very well and tarry before God, He will surely reveal all this to you. He will show you if there is any deceit in your relationship. He is a faithful God. Today, some of these things can be examined medically. The doctor can confirm if she has a good womb or not. And God can show you if she is a witch or not. And if you are hot spiritually yourself; she cannot even stay with you without manifesting. You would have discerned her.
That is why marriage is not what you do impulsively. It is what must be done thoughtfully, meditatively, prayerfully, carefully and cautiously. Just as she cannot divorce you if she discovers that you are impotent after marriage which you never told her, you too cannot divorce her on the ground of any form of deceit. I am not saying it is good deceive each other. No!
Sort out your challenges prayerfully, medically, patiently and lovingly. Take it as your cross. Don’t divorce her on the ground that she entered into the marriage with a fake love certificate, work out real love now and by the power of God, the Lord will do it for you. There is nothing impossible for God to do. Divorce in this matter is unbiblical.
Question: What is the difference between praying to win a sister’s hand in marriage and charming her? Are they not the same thing?
Answer: When you to pray to win a sister’s hand in marriage, you are asking, requesting, pleading and imploring God to give you the sister. There is nothing wrong if you ask God to give you a particular sister in marriage. Matt. 7:7 says, ‘Ask, and it shall be given you.” Mark 11:24 says, “Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.” So, it is right to ask God according to your desire.
So, praying to God means asking and begging God. It is the responsibility of God to grant it or not. Proverbs 19:21 says, “There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand.” No matter how hard you ask or beg God to give you a particular sister, God is the one who determines whether to give you or not. If the sister is not God’s will for you, God may not grant your request irrespective of your persistence in prayers.
Proverbs 16:1 says, “The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, is from the Lord.” The Message Bible says, “Mortals make elaborate plans, but GOD has the last word.” This means that it is man’s duty to plan; it is God’s duty to answer according to His will. You will just be praying amiss if you are praying against the will of God. Isaiah 1:15 says, “When ye make many prayers, I will not hear.” You cannot manipulate or compel God to answer your prayers.
You cannot bribe Him. You cannot charm Him. There is nothing you can do to make God work against His will. Remember that in II Samuel 12:22 David said, “While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether God will be gracious to me, that the child may live? But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? Can I bring him back again?” The prayers and fasting of David did not compel God to protect David’s son from death. Yet, the son died.
But when you charm a sister, it means you are using magical powers and bewitchment to manipulate her to marry you against her will. You are practising witchcraft, sorcery and occultism. Only witches and evil people manipulate people against their wishes. That is what the kingdom of darkness uses against people. You will find a good boy from a wealthy and Godly family stealing ridiculous things like biro, eraser, chin chin in school when he has a lot money in his bank account. That is manipulation.
Charming somebody involves the use of incantation, fetishism and enchantment. That was what Pharaoh used in Egypt. Exodus 7:11 says, “Then Pharaoh also called the wise men and the sorcerer: now the magicians of Egypt, they also did in like manner with their enchantments.” Exodus 7:22 says “And the magicians of Egypt did so with their enchantments.” The Word of God is against this. Deuteronomy 18:10 says, “There shall not be found among you any one that maketh his son or his daughter to pass through fire, or that useth divination, or an observer of times, or an enchanter, or a witch, or a charmer, or a consulter with familiar spirits, or a wizard, or a necromancer.”
Praying and charming are not the same. Praying is scriptural, but charming is demonic. Praying is begging and appealing to God for His favour, but charming is manipulating and remote-controlling someone against his wish. If you charm a woman with a fetish perfume, ointment, ring, handkerchief or any other demonic object, you are practising sorcery and witchcraft, such a marriage will not last. It is a make-believe marriage like the theatre. It is a simulated marriage. It is based on pretence. It is like building a house with your saliva, such a house will be destroyed by the dew, as the adage says. It is like building a house on the sand, when the rains come, the house will collapse.
Don’t use fetish powers on anybody. Don’t marry anybody by force, it will not last. How will you feel if a woman you don’t like uses fetish powers to marry you? You will not be happy, and you will not enjoy the marriage. In such a home, the remote control of that marriage is in the hands of the devil. Wait on God to give you your own destiny wife. And it will come in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.
I believe you have been blessed. I will be expecting your comments and responses. I will take more questions in the next edition by the Grace of God. Till then, God bless.
Pastor ‘Jide Ajidahun
