THE QUESTIONS SINGLES ASK 4
Welcome to the April edition of the Single’s World. In this edition, we will answer more of the questions that our singles ask. May the Lord enlighten our hearts in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Question: My fiancée is too spiritual to the extent that she does not have time for me and her education. Can I continue with her?
Answer: If your fiancée does not have time for your relationship and her education, it is a serious issue then. Attention is very important for love and relationship to grow. How do you express your mind to somebody who is not ready to listen to you? It is not spirituality that makes a woman to abandon her career and relationship; it is either fanaticism or a disorder.
Prayerfully and carefully find out if the sister is not having some mental issues. That is how insanity begins. If she does not have time for you, how will your relationship grow? If she does not have time for her studies and she fails, will her failure glorify God? Definitely no! Ecclesiastes 3: 1 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” Maybe she has difficulties managing her time and balancing her spiritual life with academic life. If she concentrates all her time on spiritual things and abandons her studies, how will she eat in future?
As busy as Paul the Apostle was, he was a tentmaker. As busy as Jesus was, He had time to rest with His disciples. Mark 6:31 says, “And he said unto them, come ye yourselves apart into the desert place and rest a while.” I suggest you talk to her on this your observation, and see if she will change. If she does not change, talk to her parents about it. If she does not change, I suggest you leave her because she will stress you in life if you marry her.
Even if she claims to have changed, ensure the change is genuine. If you observe the traces of insanity in her, I suggest you leave her if you don’t want trouble in your marriage. You may wish to let her parents know about it so that they can handle her issue medically and spiritually. Don’t mind the comments of people on the account of this provided you are sincere in this matter. God be with you.
Question: What can I do because all the brothers coming to me are Muslims and no Christian brother is coming to me?
Answer: I need to ask you some questions. First, are you genuinely born again? Do you go to Church regularly? Are you a committed Christian in your Church? Are your friends Christians or Muslims? If you are genuinely born again, committed to a local Church with Christian friends around you, I don’t see how it will be only Muslims that will be coming to you and no single Christian brother even if your house is next to the central mosque. Except you yourself you are a Muslim that is trying to be born again with Muslim friends around you, there is no reason why Muslims should be the only people coming to you.
Even then, you cannot marry any of them if you are a Christian. In case, you are born again genuinely with strong commitment towards the work of God and the situation is the same, please, go for deliverance. Something is wrong with your life. It is like suffering while living in the midst of abundance. The devil is pushing the wrong people across your path while the right man is being hindered from coming to you. The devil wants you to marry the wrong person.
Proverbs 1:10 says, “My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.” The Bible says; if sinners and unbelievers want to marry you, don’t agree. No matter their desperation, you must learn how to say a loud No. II Corinthians 6:15 says, “What part hath he that believeth with an infidel?” New Living Translation says, “How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? God’s Word Translation says, “Can a believer share life with an unbeliever?”
This is evil magnet attracting the wrong men to you. There is also the demonic time waster that wants to waste your time. Stand up in prayers and ensure that you are delivered. The Lord will surely set you free. Remember that if the only job that is always available for you is prostitution, you will not like to accept it as a Christian.
If madmen are the only people coming to propose to you and no sane person, will you say yes to one of them? If the nets of your friends are catching big fish at the river, and your own net is always catching earthworms, will you go home and boil the earthworms and eat them just because you are not catching fish?
Be patient. Your husband will come to you. Wait, please. Let me share this testimony with you. One of my daughters in the Lord was not into any relationship even over ten years after she graduated from the university with second class upper division. She was over twenty years when she graduated. She is very smart and beautiful, yet no good Christian brother proposed to her. She was worried, but I kept on praying with her and encouraging her in the Lord.
Despite the fact that she has a good job, no brother saw her. She attends a very big and popular Church, yet no brother showed any interest in her. Her spoken English is distinctive, yet no proposal from any Christian brother. When proposals were coming, they were coming from unbelievers, Muslims and married men. I counselled her to say a loud No, and she agreed with me. We kept praying on it. By the time the Lord answered her prayer, she got two good proposals from two good Christian brothers. The problem was which of them was God’s choice for her.
With prayers and counsel, she said yes to one of them. Her wedding was great. She now has a boy and a girl. The miracle was that she prayed and waited. If you will pray and wait, your husband will come to you. Never agree to marry unbelievers. It is the strategy of the devil to ruin your destiny and make your life miserable.
God willing, we will continue from here next month. Meanwhile, I will be expecting your comments. Till then, God bless.
Pastor Jide Ajidahun.
