Hey guys!!! March edition was about identifying your purpose and vision in life before contemplating marriage. This month He will be sharing some biblical examples to back it up. Read, Share ,Comment and Subscribe. Love from The Olive Branch.
MY DESTINY. MY LIFE. MY RELATIONSHIP: PART II.
In the March edition, I shared with you the need for you to identify your purpose and vision in life before contemplating marriage. I told you that marriage is one of the catalysts needed to actualize your dreams and purposes in life. Entering into a relationship or even proper marriage before identifying your purpose in life can be calamitous and cataclysmic. I want to share with you some Biblical examples of men who first sorted out their purposes in life before contemplating marriage. It appears to me this is the way to go in life. We will look at the following examples:
Adam: Adam was God’s first creature, and he was created in God’s own image. He carried the breath of God and he possessed the creative ability of God. He was created for a purpose in life. God’s assignment for him as contained in Gen. 2:15 was to dress and keep the Garden of Eden. That was God’s purpose for him. To fulfill that mission, God introduced marriage to him by giving him Eve to be his helpmeet- Gen. 2:18. Here, purpose came before marriage relationship. Marriage came later to help Adam fulfill his purpose in life. This is not an attempt to vitiate or reduce the marriage institution to a mere helping institution that is expendable. Of course, if you don’t fulfill your purpose in life, you may go to hell. It is unlikely you will go to hell if you don’t get married. After all, the Bible says there are eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake- Matt. 19:12. Sort out your purpose first before seek for a marriage relationship.
Joseph: Joseph in Gen. 42:4-5 was made the overseer over all the house of Potiphar. In Gen. 41:43, Joseph had become the ruler over all the land of Egypt. All these while he was a bachelor. He faced all his trials alone as a bachelor. He went to prison as a bachelor. If he had married this period, nobody can predict what could have happened to Joseph. The advice from his wife could have helped or marred Joseph’s career. The wife of Joseph could have become very bitter against Potiphar’s wife for telling lies against her husband. Her bitterness could have made her persuade her husband to leave Potiphar’s house without knowing that Joseph’s destiny was tied to Potiphar’s house. Remember Job’s wife. If Joseph had married before getting to Potiphar’s house, he could have shared his dreams of greatness with her. Only God knows what could have happened. At thirty years, when Joseph’s dreams had started coming to pass, he decided to get married. In Gen. 41:43, he was made the ruler over the land of Egypt. Soon after, Pharaoh gave Joseph Asenath, the daughter of Potipherah priest of On as wife- Gen. 41:45. I am not in way saying that until you become the President of your country or the Chief Executive of an organization before you get married. At least, identify where you are going and proceed on the trip of destiny before considering marriage or else you will lose focus. Joseph had a dream. He set at it. He made up his mind not to compromise so that the dreams could come to pass. He left marriage beside. And when it was time, he considered marriage. Many guys at nineteen, twenty years are already into relationships without even knowing where they are going in life. No dream. No vision. No purpose. It is all about relationships.
Isaac: Isaac, the son of Abraham did not enter into any marriage relationship until Abraham his father had given him all that he had- Gen. 24:36.What did Abraham have? In Genesis 12:16, the Bible says Abram “had sheep, and oxen, and he asses, and menservants, and maidservants, and she asses, and camels.” In Gen. 13:2, the Bible says, “Abram was very rich in cattle, in silver, and in gold.” Abraham gave all these to Isaac before he asked his eldest servant to look for a wife for Isaac in Gen. 24. Isaac knew he was a child of promise by the covenant that God made with his father, Abraham. He had knowledge of his destiny and purpose in life. And his father handed over his property and all that he had to him. So, Isaac was well knowledgeable in his purpose in life before Rebekah came into his life. Isaac related with his destiny before relating with Rebekah. Please, note that Isaac married Rebekah when he was forty years old-Gen. 25:20. You don’t have to wait for forty years before you get married as a man. Forty years here symbolizes patience, maturity and perseverance. He was not in a hurry to pick a wife when he in 200 level in the University. Today, our teenagers are into relationships. This is a misnomer. Abraham did not seek for a wife for him when he was twenty years old. Abraham ensured Isaac knew his purpose in life, and that he was mature enough to manage his estate. Abraham did not want to hand over his estate to a child. This is because “the heir, as long as he is a child, different nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all.”- Gal. 4:1-3. Today, children are into relationship without having any idea about their purposes in life. Abraham put destiny first before Isaac before marriage. So, the ground was already prepared for Isaac to succeed.
Moses: In Exodus 2:11-14, God spoke in a parable to Moses that he was going to raise him as a deliverer for the people of Israel. When his authority was challenged, he ran to the land of Midian. Obviously, God had already spoken to Moses that he was going to use him. That he knew already before the priest of Midian gave Moses Zipporah his daughter as wife- Exodus 2:21. So again, Moses fixed his purpose in life before marriage.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; all these things shall be added unto you-Matt. 6:33. Contextually, you need to seek your purpose in life first before pursuing marriage. Marriage will then be an addition to you. Marriage first before purpose will give you a myriad. If you don’t know where you are going in life and you enter into marriage, you may not be fulfilled. And the purpose of God is for you to be fulfilled in life. I will continue from here in the May edition, God willing. Till then, stay blessed.
Author: Jide Ajidahun
