ou can see the rain and the lightning:That is the friend zone for you. The Friend zone can only look like a rainbow to you when you put yourself there knowingly which i don’t think is possible. Ayokunle wrote this for the people who are in the friend zone struggling to get out. This is dedicated to you. Share, comment and Enjoy!
Friend zone is a huge topic around teenagers and young adults these days. I mean, that’s all people seem to talk about on social media. To some of us who don’t know the meaning of friend zone, it simply means when someone you like or deeply care about or love sees you as nothing more than a friend and lets you know he/she is interested in someone or something else. At first, I thought it was a joke until it happened to me. I was friend zoned! Personally, it’s a really sad thing to be in the friend zone but once you are in it, you have to get out of it and move on quickly. So these are some steps I used to help me jump out of the friend zone;
1. Acceptance is the first step. I had to admit to myself that whether I liked it or not, I was in the zone. I know it’s tough. Not wanting to admit that the person you like has called you “his closest friend” or “you are like a sister to me” or “we are compatible but we are better off as friends”. Some very silly excuses .You have to face it and move to the next step.
2. Identify the personality of the person who put you in the zone. You have to find out if this person has a natural flirty attitude or maybe the person is just attractive and funny. People with natural flirty attitude are the most common types that put people in the friend zone. It’s just their nature, they can’t help it.
3. If the person is single, then you can express your feelings once and for all without hesitations. That’s if you want to give it a trial and see if the person has feelings for you but is probably hiding it. If not, well if you are good at killing feelings if it isn’t strong enough. No problem.
4. If the person isn’t single and doesn’t plan on leaving his/her partner, then you have to admit to yourself that you deserve happiness and that happiness means moving on.
5. A good step in moving on is reducing communication for a while till you have let go completely. Busy your mind with other things and discover yourself and the world than moping around, waiting for false love.
6. Note that if the person doesn’t want to stop talking to you so much and the feelings are still there, cut all communications and run far from the person until you have emptied all feelings. If you keep lingering around someone who doesn’t want you, it becomes unhealthy and just a waste of time. You need to realize your worth and go for someone who appreciates it. Don’t be the second choice or don’t let yourself be the second choice.
Well, these steps should work if you really put your mind to it. You have to be ready emotionally. Trust me, it’s not easy but it’s worth every try. If you remain in the friend zone, you cannot grow. Be smart like me and make the wise decision.
